How do you touch your partner's cock?

​Men don't often handle their cock with gratitude and reverence. Instead, taking their cock for granted, they will use their cock to get something - an ejaculation, an orgasm - treating their cock like it has a job to do. Many men also focus on their erect cock, thinking that their flaccid cock is something to be embarrassed about or ashamed of. So, when they do touch their cock, it is usually also with the intention of getting an erection.

If you have a partner, you may not realize the profound healing effect that lovingly touching their cock can have on them.

Firstly, when men touch their own cock, they're not only receiving sensory information from their cock as they touch it, they're also receiving sensory information from their hand as it touches their cock. This double feedback can actually minimize the pleasure they feel. The cerebellum, the part of the brain which coordinates and regulates muscular activity, can predict sensations when your own movement causes them but not when someone else does. So, when you touch yourself, the cerebellum predicts the sensation and this prediction is used to cancel the response of other brain areas to the pleasure. But, when you touch him, he can experience much more sensation.

The power of your touch is amplified if you caress his flaccid penis. As shared above, men often feel embarrassed of or ashamed about their soft cock. Remember, your partner doesn't need to be erect in order to feel pleasure. On top of that, you're gentle touch of his soft cock, signaling you're acceptance of it, can help him to accept it as well.

If your partner has a penis, I encourage you to own the power you have in your hands to effect positive change in their relationship to their body by intentionally and lovingly touching their cock.