Orgasm denial falls under the umbrella of orgasm control. Essentially, you’re not allowed to orgasm, either at all, for a specified period or until you complete a task. Orgasm denial can be a done alone, but it also works well with partners.
The idea of denying an orgasm may sound counterintuitive to pleasure. However, this kink is actually pretty common. Denying or delaying an orgasm can actually lead to a more intense experience in the end. Putting off orgasm can also create sexual chemistry. Being in control of someone’s orgasm, which includes telling them not to cum and telling them when they finally can cum, can be a turn on. Handing over that control is can also be arousing.
Everyone can experience orgasm denial, which include complete denial, tease and denial, and ruined orgasm. Some examples are denying orgasm a specific number of times before you allow yourself or your partner to orgasm, not allowing your partner to orgasm until you issue the command, not not allowing yourself or your partner to orgasm until a specific date, allowing orgasm as a reward for doing something specific, allowing orgasm only if your partner doesn't use their hands, and only allowing a certain time to reach orgasm or stopping and starting stimulation sporadically.
Sex toys such as chastity belts and cock cages are available to aid in your orgasm denial games. Locking your penis in a specially designed cage that prevents you from getting full erections or using your penis for sex can be extremely exciting for some people. Others say orgasm denial increases your sex drive and improves your focus. It also obviously heightens the stakes of a dom/sub relationship, with a master or mistress able to punish their sub by denying them not just sex but the ability to orgasm.
Of course, there are levels of orgasm denial and going straight for a cock cage may seem extreme. But, experimenting with the withholding of your or your partner's orgasm can add variety to your solo or partnered sexual experinces. It can even open the door for exploring other pleasurable sensations in your body that perhaps don't necessarily lead to orgasm.
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