On The Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Dr. Betty Martin. Betty has had her hands on people professionally for over 40 years, first as a Chiropractor and upon retiring from that practice, as a certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate, and Somatic Sex Educator. Her explorations in somatic-based therapy and practices informed her creation of the framework, The Wheel of Consent®. As part of her work with the School of Consent, Betty travels around the world teaching practitioners how to create empowered agreements in their client sessions, in her highly sought-after training “Like A Pro: The Wheel of Consent for Practitioners.” Originally developed as an offering to teach much-needed consent skills to sex workers and touch providers, this training is now attended by somatic therapists, massage therapists, sexuality educators, medical and health care workers, activists, human resources folks and the spectrum of touch-based professional providers – all of whom complete the training with a clear understanding of how consent starts with our own bodies, and then expands outwards into all forms of human relating, with or without touch. Betty and I talk about her amazing touch- and communication-based framework - The Wheel of Consent® - as well as discuss some specifics of the framework as it relates to men.

Key Points:
​- Betty shares about her career
- The inception of The Wheel of Consent
- Giving/Receiving and Doing/Done-To
- The four quadrants
- The 3 Minute Game
- Learning how to take pleasure
- You can’t make someone surrender
- Practical advice for men using The Wheel
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Relevant links:
Betty’s website: bettymartin.org
The Wheel of Consent website: wheelofconsentbook.com
The Wheel of Consent Instagram: @thewheelofconsent

On The Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Dexter Kendrick, affectionately known as Dr. Dex by his clients. Dexter has been a practicing psychic/medium and astrologer since 2001. He has written horoscopes for newspaper, magazine copy, and been a regular guest on NuSpirit talk radio out of NYC since 2011. He has taught and published articles on psychic self-development and astrological understanding of our psychology. He has done research into personality studies at the University of Hartford, and offered astrological, tarot, and spiritual conversations on love and relationships for the public via private practice. He also does weekly LIVE Facebook psychic readings on his show “Love 911 Tarot” on Facebook and Instagram, coaching clients on love, sex, relationships, family, money, and career. As a medium, he also reconnects clients with loved ones who are dearly departed should they wish it.
Over the last 11 years as a doctor of spiritual 5 element acupuncture, Dexter has brought this evidence-based transformative healing technique to the Mediterranean and Northern Europe, the Middle East, South and Central America, Mexico, Canada, and the Caribbean. Using a results based philosophy, along with educational self-care techniques, Dexter enlightens and demonstrates to patients the powerful ability of their bodies and minds to change. He is currently lead supervising doctor of clinical acupuncture interns at the Maryland University of Integrative Health, where he also serves as adjunct faculty and senate member. Dexter and I talk about his work with men as an acupuncturist and practitioner of Natural Medicine. We discuss men’s health and share some advice about how to improve your own wellbeing. We also explore some of Dexter’s journey with mediumship.

Key Points:
Dexter introduces himself
Eastern Medicine vs Western Medicine
Penis heath
Fertility and conception
Changing your diet for sexual health
Prostate health
Mediumship and sexuality
Telling people about their future
Practicing Chinese Medicine as a Black man

Relevant Links:
Dexter’s Facebook: @love911tarot
​Dexter’s Instagram: @love911tarot

On The Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Lauren White, a woman on a mission to help people feel sexually confident. Originally from Denver, Colorado, Lauren moved to San Diego in 2011 to pursue an M.A. in Communication. At the age of 23, she became an adjunct professor, teaching at colleges and correctional facilities in San Diego. During her time as a professor, she recognized a need for real conversations about sex and sexuality. Identifying as a sexually curious person, and having a feminist studies background, Lauren left her position in the college classroom to pursue teaching to a global classroom. She prides herself on being very relatable, funny, and passionate during conversations that may normally be categorized as awkward with both men and women. When she is not having or talking about sex, Lauren in an ardent explorer, having visited over 20 countries, and 42 U.S. States. She once sold all of her belongings and moved into a custom built van in the pursuit of uncharted adventure. She’s a bit of an adrenaline junkie, dances her heart out, and has a uniquely close relationship with her family. Lauren and I talk about what it means to be sexually confident and how you too can embody sexual confidence. I also ask her about what we can do to help boost our partner’s sexual confidence.

Key Points:
- Lauren shares the evolution of her message
- What does it mean to be sexually confident?
- The way we talk about masturbation and sex
- The problem with being “good in bed”
- Embodying your pleasure
- Learning to communicate
- Comfortability and sexual confidence
- Your body is a playground
- Advice for women
- Advice for men

Relevant links:
Lauren’s Instagram: @shewolflauren
The Sex Den’s Instagram: @thesexden