On The Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Mish Middelmann. Mish is the co-founder and first CEO of a hi-tech software and services start-up in the 1990s, turned systemic leadership coach since 2010. Mish was fit, healthy and sexually active when he was diagnosed with prostate cancer in November 2019, at the age of 61. He is now back to being fit and healthy and sexually active in quite different ways after a radical prostatectomy surgery in 2020. Mish and I talk about his diagnosis with prostate cancer as well as the process he went through for surgery and recovery. We also discuss the impacts that his prostatectomy had on his experience of masculinity and sexuality, such as not feeling virile, struggling to get erections, and not ejaculating anymore. Mish also shares how he has rediscovered and reconnected with his manhood and life in general, including his relationship with his partner.
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Key Points:
​- Mish talks about his diagnosis
- The process of prostatectomy
- Recovery and rehabilitation
- Impacts on masculinity and virility
- Erectile dysfunction after prostate surgery
- Learning new ways of being sexual
- Viagra, penis pumps and dry orgasms
- Reconnecting with a partner

Relevant Links:
Mish’s Twitter: @RecoveringMan1
Mish’s website: www.recoveringman.net

On The Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Dexter Kendrick, affectionately known as Dr. Dex by his clients. Dexter has been a practicing psychic/medium and astrologer since 2001. He has written horoscopes for newspaper, magazine copy, and been a regular guest on NuSpirit talk radio out of NYC since 2011. He has taught and published articles on psychic self-development and astrological understanding of our psychology. He has done research into personality studies at the University of Hartford, and offered astrological, tarot, and spiritual conversations on love and relationships for the public via private practice. He also does weekly LIVE Facebook psychic readings on his show “Love 911 Tarot” on Facebook and Instagram, coaching clients on love, sex, relationships, family, money, and career. As a medium, he also reconnects clients with loved ones who are dearly departed should they wish it.
Over the last 11 years as a doctor of spiritual 5 element acupuncture, Dexter has brought this evidence-based transformative healing technique to the Mediterranean and Northern Europe, the Middle East, South and Central America, Mexico, Canada, and the Caribbean. Using a results based philosophy, along with educational self-care techniques, Dexter enlightens and demonstrates to patients the powerful ability of their bodies and minds to change. He is currently lead supervising doctor of clinical acupuncture interns at the Maryland University of Integrative Health, where he also serves as adjunct faculty and senate member. Dexter and I talk about his work with men as an acupuncturist and practitioner of Natural Medicine. We discuss men’s health and share some advice about how to improve your own wellbeing. We also explore some of Dexter’s journey with mediumship.

Key Points:
Dexter introduces himself
Eastern Medicine vs Western Medicine
Penis heath
Fertility and conception
Changing your diet for sexual health
Prostate health
Mediumship and sexuality
Telling people about their future
Practicing Chinese Medicine as a Black man

Relevant Links:
Dexter’s Facebook: @love911tarot
​Dexter’s Instagram: @love911tarot

On The Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Lauren White, a woman on a mission to help people feel sexually confident. Originally from Denver, Colorado, Lauren moved to San Diego in 2011 to pursue an M.A. in Communication. At the age of 23, she became an adjunct professor, teaching at colleges and correctional facilities in San Diego. During her time as a professor, she recognized a need for real conversations about sex and sexuality. Identifying as a sexually curious person, and having a feminist studies background, Lauren left her position in the college classroom to pursue teaching to a global classroom. She prides herself on being very relatable, funny, and passionate during conversations that may normally be categorized as awkward with both men and women. When she is not having or talking about sex, Lauren in an ardent explorer, having visited over 20 countries, and 42 U.S. States. She once sold all of her belongings and moved into a custom built van in the pursuit of uncharted adventure. She’s a bit of an adrenaline junkie, dances her heart out, and has a uniquely close relationship with her family. Lauren and I talk about what it means to be sexually confident and how you too can embody sexual confidence. I also ask her about what we can do to help boost our partner’s sexual confidence.

Key Points:
- Lauren shares the evolution of her message
- What does it mean to be sexually confident?
- The way we talk about masturbation and sex
- The problem with being “good in bed”
- Embodying your pleasure
- Learning to communicate
- Comfortability and sexual confidence
- Your body is a playground
- Advice for women
- Advice for men

Relevant links:
Lauren’s Instagram: @shewolflauren
The Sex Den’s Instagram: @thesexden

​This is a special episode of The Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast​. Today’s episode celebrates a year of “Men, Sex & Pleasure.” It has been such an amazing year and I feel really grateful to have spoken with 51 incredible guests who have all taught me so much. To celebrate a year of the podcast, I decided to record my first solo episode. When I reflected on what I wanted to talk about, a lot of things came to mind. However, there was one topic which really stood out to me. I get asked on a daily basis about pornography. Without fail, everyday someone, somewhere asks me something about porn. I have a lot to say about porn and having to respond every single time with my myriad of thoughts is usually impossible. So I had the idea to record an episode about my opinion on pornography which I can share with people when they ask me for my thoughts. Like I said, I have a lot to say and this ended up becoming a two part instalment. This episode is part 1 and is released alongside part 2. If you’re interested in the nuances of the porn debate, hopefully you’ll find these two parts interesting. I’m not trying to convince anyone of anything, just have a conversation. Thank you for supporting the podcast for a whole year. I look forward to bringing more interesting conversations in the year to come.

Key Points:
Introduction to and intentions for the conversation
I understand the harm some porn has caused
Anti-Porn vs Pro-Porn vs Anti-Anti-Porn
What is porn? The problem with definitions
The problem with the “porn is a drug” analogy
Thought experiment: Where do you draw the line?
Operation Spanner and private sex groups
Mainstream vs Ethical (Feminist) porn
Messages, escalation, addiction, exploitation