On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Grace Alice. Grace has been a Sex and Relationships Educator for 6 years, and is the author of 'Sex Educated'. She is from Kerry (Ireland), and originally trained as an Occupational Therapist before completing her Masters in Health Promotion, with a focus on sexual health and body image. She is super passionate about playing her part in creating a more sex-positive Ireland, free from shame, stigma and secrecy. Grace is training with the Somatica Institute to become a Sex and Relationships Coach. In 2022, she will be registering as the first Occupational Therpist in Ireland to specialise in sex, intimacy and relationships! The two of us talk about her experience with vaginismus as well as her work as a sex educator. We also discuss body shaming and masculinity and how these relate to teenagers.
Key points: - Grace share about her life and work - Vaginismus and sex education - Talk therapy and bodywork - Sexuality in Ireland - Masculinity and teenage boys - “Gay chicken”: Homophobia and homoeroticism - The lack of nuance in male sexuality - Advertising sexuality work to men Relevant links: Grace’s website: gracealice.com Grace’s book: https://sexualhealthwest.ie/product/sex-educated-by-grace-alice-oshea/ Cam’s Patreon: www.patreon.com/thecamfraser
0 Comments
On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Skye Stevenson. Skye is the founder and creative director of Evolved Lovers, Skye works with women and couples and is an approved Awakening Within Relationship & Sexuality Educator, Trauma informed, Internationally certified Holistic Life Coach, Reiki Master with a Diploma in Swedish and Lomi Lomi massage. She has trained with the Wheel of Consent School and calls herself a student for life. Skye specialises in sexual trauma using a wide range of tools from talking sessions, body de-armouring, touch work including yoni massage healing. Skye is well known in teaching Shibari and tantric massage to couples in person and is known to re-awaken one's desire. The two of us talk about sexual exploration, resistance, dominance, boundaries, safety. I ask Skye for a woman’s perspective on these things. We also talk about Skye’s work with erotic bondage and Shibari.
Key Points: - Skye shares some of her story - Curiosity and experimentation - Resistance to sexual exploration - Dominance and limiting beliefs - Asserting boundaries - Creating sexual safety for women - Erotic bondage - Pleasure and pain - Connecting with your partner through Shibari Relevant links: Skye’s website: https://evolvedlovers.com/ Skye’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evolved_lovers/
On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Jan-Willem van der Heiden. Jan is a warrior coach. He was not a very confident kid. He had low self-esteem, no self-worth, struggled in school and had difficulty making connections with peers. After years of depression, his big brother took him to a boxing school where he met his mentor. Under the tutelage of Shifu Zhao, a 70-year old Chinese boxing and martial legend, Jan cultivated and reshaped himself to face all his fears. For the first time he was able to allow himself to feel the anger, shame and sadness from trauma that had been repressed for so long. It made Jan into the Warrior Coach he is today, coaching and mentoring over 50 men from all across the world. The two of us talk about Jan’s work with men and how he helps them overcome fear by facing it head on via the modality of boxing. We also speak about fear in general and how we can learn from our past. Jan shares about his own past as a professional gamer and what, if anything, he has learned from that. We also discuss finding a healthy mindset and balance with regards to our vices, such as video games and smoking.
Key Points: - Jan introduces himself and his passions - Warrior coaching and fight club - The role of fear in our lives - Jan’s previous life as a professional gamer - Learning from our past - Finding balance with our vices - Having a healthy mindset Relevant links: Jan’s Instagram: @janwillemvanderh Jan’s website: https://www.thewarrior.coach/
Eleanor Hadley is a Sensuality Coach, Sex Educator & Sensual Movement Practitioner. Through 1:1 coaching, group programs, retreats, workshops and speaking, Eleanor is on a mission to help you embody your femininity, enhance your sex-life and elevate your relationships. Eleanor believes that sensuality is the missing key to cultivating deeper connection - with yourself, your body, your pleasure and with your loved ones. She has supported women around the world to finally channel their feminine essence to create super turned on lives of ease and flow. Her clients and students have fallen in love with their bodies once and for all, reclaimed their pleasure, unlocked orgasms, stepped in to their most confident selves and become super sensual. The Sensuality Academy Podcast is where Eleanor shares juicy gems from her own life, stories of clients' success along with tangible techniques to help you discover your sense of self-love, cultivate self-intimacy and boost your self-esteem.
If you’re craving to feel more sensual and more connected - with your body, your sexuality and with your partner - this is the show for you. The two of us talk about tapping into your sensuality through embodied movement as well as how men can hold space for their partner to drop into their eroticism and how women can build confidence in their sensuality to demand that their partner hold space for them. Key Points: Eleanor shares about her work Yoga, femininity, and masculinity Balancing structure with fluidity Resistance to sensual expression Lap dancing for you, not them Sensuality vs Sexuality Externalizing self-worth Demanding that your partner holds space Advice for feeling more confident. Relevant links: Eleanor’s Instagram: @eleanorhadley Eleanor’s website: https://www.eleanorhadley.com/ Cam’s Patreon: www.patreon.com/thecamfraser
On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Andrew Eggelton. Andrew is the world's leading authority on Authentic Presenting. He's the creator and visionary behind 'The Eggelton Presenting Method™', a style of Presenting that re-invents the Speakers Experience, elevating it beyond the tropes of old school copy and paste to a deeper, more spiritual experience for both Presenter and Audience. Over 28 years of devotion to his craft of Presenting, from sleeping in the boot of his car so he could afford lessons, to perpetually touring the world running sold out events and retreats, he dared to dream that one day he could not only be World Class, but redefine what World Class looks like. Through a career of TV, Film and Speaking, working with people like Ryan Gosling, Michael J Fox, Peter Jackson and winning multiple TV awards, he devoted most of this career to discovering what 'Just Be You' actually means when Presenting and how to achieve pure authenticity. He transforms Speakers, aiding them to discover a balance of the Head, which is the technical, and the Heart Brain, which is the feeling. He takes them into a world where the space between the words is as potent as the words themselves and when they do speak, their words match the frequency of their Greatness, an audience, connecting, resonating, feeling the impact of each nuance. The two of us talk about what authenticity looks and feels like not only when presenting and speaking but also when it comes to masculinity and sexuality.
Key points: - Andrew shares about his career - “Just be you” vs “fake it until you make it” - Tony Robbins and performance - Not changing state - Speaking in online spaces - Performing masculinity - Overcoming anxiety - Getting into and moving your body - Presence and acceptance - Communicating sexually Relevant links: Andrew’s website: https://www.andreweggelton.com/ Andrew’s Instagram: @andreweggelton Cam’s Patreon: www.patreon.com/thecamfraser
On today’s episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with James Mattingley. James is a coach and facilitator with over a decade of leading groups, and guiding transformational experiences. He is based in Ubud Bali and works in three areas; helping couples reignite the passion they had in the beginning... but better. Guiding small groups of seekers to connect to their genius and superpowers. And leading men’s groups focused on stepping into courage and loving on each other through embodiment and boxing. The two of us talk about passion, love, sacredness, soul mates, sex, emotion, and fighting.
Key points: - James introduces himself - Can we all follow our passions? - Cultivating intuition and trust - Determining your core value - Individual sacredness - Soul mates and love - Spontaneous vs planned sex - Masculinity and numbing emotion - Physical exhaustion and emotional expression Relevant links: James’ Instagram: @james.mattingley James’ website: https://www.jamesmattingley.com/ James’ Facebook: /mattingleyjames
On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Samantha Zipporah, a fertility, sex, & cycle educator, author, & activist with over 20 years of experience. She is devoted to breaking the spells of oppression in reproductive & sexual health through collective healing, liberation, & education. A former birth doula, she provides radical love for navigating the womb continuum & reclaiming ancestral wisdom. Sam’s unique praxis weaves a balance of scientific data & spiritual presence to offer knowledge & embodied wisdom for claiming inner authority, pleasure, & power in fertility, sex, & cycles. Sam provides vital education for everyone from professionals to preteens and inspires individuals to claim their power through body literacy & sovereignty. The two of us talk about contraception and the symptothermal method of fertility awareness.
Key Points: - Samantha shares about her work - Reclaiming language - The sacred “Yes” - Stigma around contraception - Who is responsible for contraception? - The symptothermal method - Semen retention and the withdrawal method - Men learning about fertility awareness - Herbal abortion Relevant links: Samantha’s website: www.samanthazipporah.com Samantha’s Facebook: facebook.com/samanthazipporah Samantha’s Instagram: @samanthazipporah
On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Lovehoney Director and Head of Operations in Australia, Rob Godwin. Rob is responsible for day-to-day commercial operations and performance, as well as growing the Lovehoney brand in Australia. Rob’s role at Lovehoney is diverse and encompasses creating, developing and implementing a multi-level business plan and strategy to ensure the successful operations of Lovehoney Australia, while accelerating its year-on-year growth. Rob manages a 30-strong team with four departmental heads, covering; customer service; warehousing and distribution; online trading; PR and marketing; finance; and buying. Rob established Lovehoney Australia in Queensland in September 2013 from his spare room with one staff member. Previously having run his own business, the Love Group, Rob successfully tendered the Fifty Shades of Grey license in association with the UK company, Lovehoney Ltd. The Fifty Shades of Grey range is now one of the companies most successful product lines. Rob’s career has been highly focused on implementing and overseeing strategies to drive revenue growth and raising the profile of the adult industry. After studying a Bachelor of Business Administration at Lancaster University, Rob moved into marketing and strategy and has worked his way up to CEO of Sexpo and Club X stores. Since starting Lovehoney Australia, he has been featured in international publications and was on the industry board for six years. He encourages his team to take pride in their work, recognising and celebrating their successes, as well as striving to drive the business forward. Outside of work Rob is a keen amateur boxer and marathon runner. The father of two likes yoga, and is a local junior football coach. The two of us talk about the history and future of Lovehoney and what it is like to be a leader for the world’s largest online adult toy retailer.
Key points:
Relevant links: Lovehoney’s Instagram: @lovehoneyau Lovehoney’s website: www.lovehoney.com.au Cam’s Patreon: www.patreon.com/thecamfraser
On today’s episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Kelly Gordon. Kelly is a 32 year old entrepreneur and consultant based in the West Midlands, UK. She has Spinal Muscular Atrophy Type 3 which is a genetic disability meaning for her, that she uses an electric wheelchair to get around. Kelly’s condition is progressive and has meant that she has faced losing her ability throughout her life especially when her body faced big changes and challenges such as pregnancy. Kelly has two young sons, which is quite trying for any parent but absolutely loves parenting with her disability with help from her supportive partner Josh and her awesome team of PA’s. From a young age Kelly was outspoken and never let anyone dictate what her disability meant or allowed her to do, this has seen her go through mainstream schools, get into a lot of trouble at college and ultimately push herself through many exciting and predominantly male dominated industries. Kelly now works as a consultant which allows her to dedicate her time to projects that truly excite her and allows her also to manage her time to ensure she has sufficient time with her young sons. Kelly's current projects span from recruitment to working for forward thinking sex toy brand Hot Octopuss. Kelly also works as a presenter and is the current host of Hot Octopuss’s brand podcast Pleasure Rebels, as well as this Kelly has also worked on projects for the BBC, Channel 4 and Virgin Media. Kelly also regularly appears in mainstream media throughout the UK discussing issues that disabled people face and advocating for other disabled people. Kelly has also co-founded the business "With Not For” with Emma Gardner. Kelly and Emma are working together on this project to not only get disabled people into work but to push disabled people into high paid and high power roles, ultimately getting them to boardroom level by embracing talent, confidence and reeducating big employers about the benefits of adding people with disabilities to their teams. The two of us talk about Kelly’s experience as a disabled person as well as the intersection of disability and sexuality.
Key Points: - Kelly shares some of her story - The novelty of sex toys - How Kelly’s disability has impacted her sexuality - The extra layers of consent - The disability bubble - Stigmatization of wheelchair users - Sex toys for people with disabilities - Sex toys for flaccid penises - Advice for people with a disability Relevant links: Kelly’s Instagram: @mskelgee Pleasure Rebels podcast: @pleasurerebels Cam’s Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thecamfraser
On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Court Vox. Court provides personal guidance and expertise in the unique and often ignored areas of sex. He is a trained Sex and Intimacy Consultant, Surrogate Partner Intern and Sacred Intimate. His approach is personal and necessary. Founder of his practice The Body Vox, he brings professional opportunities for his clients to learn about and embrace their bodies and those of others. Sex, the thing the world is now acknowledging as so important for our general wellness, mental health and indeed our lives is on the agenda. While much progress has been made it is still too often a taboo subject. Court serves as the counselor of our times breaking down the walls of shame and anxiety around intimacy and sex. Traditional forms of therapy are done through talk, the work of a somatic sex educator is to further this form of work via touch and body-based exercises in comfortable, judgment-free, and safe environments. Body acceptance, exploration of sensation and desires (and learning how to ask for what you want), boundary-setting and intimacy work are some of the many reasons clients seek this form of therapy. Court is a sex educator experienced working with clients of all sexualities and genders. He continues to collaborate with fellow sex educator Pamela Madsen for workshops around the country. The two of us talk about his work as a surrogate partner as well as what it means to be multi-orgasmic.
Key points: - Court shares some of his story - Transitioning from corporate to sexuality work - The different modalities Court draws on - Self-pleasure rituals - What is surrogate partner therapy? - Surrogate partner therapy vs sex work - Client-centered approach - Sexual orientation and surrogate partner therapy - The many types of male orgasm - 31+ erogenous zones Relevant links: Court’s Instagram: @courtvox Court’s Website: thebodyvox.com Cam’s Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thecamfraser |
Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam FraserThe intention with this podcast is to platform people who perhaps haven't been part of the discourse around masculinity and sexuality in the mainstream, spiritual, Tantra and sacred sexuality communities. From sex workers, male strippers, and relationship coaches to psychosexual therapists, transgender educators and indigenous men, "Men, Sex & Pleasure" is a podcast discussing all things masculinity, sexuality, male bodies and men's experience of pleasure. Archives
June 2022
Categories |