On episode 11 of The Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Devin Fredericksen about reframing our relationship with the earth, from Mother to Lover.
Devin helps people reconnect to themselves, each other, and Mother Earth in a heart-centred path. He supports the Regeneration of the Masculine, with the intention to reunite the global brotherhood. He specializes in sacred sexuality, conscious intimacy, permaculture, and is an ecstatic chef and regenerative farmer.
By weaving these elements together, Devin facilitates the process of living in a harmonious relationship with ourselves. Devin embraces life with gratitude for every day because of the gift of this opportunity to live life NOW!
- Devin's journey into his current work
- The difference between Mother Earth and Lover Earth
- Men's relationship with the feminine
- Harnessing sexual energy
- Celibacy and ejaculation
- Nature worship as sexual initiation
- Play and pleasure
Devin's Instagram: @devinfredericksen
Cam's Instagram: @thecamfraser
On Episode 10 of the Men, Sex and Pleasure podcast, I chatted with depressed Heavy Diesel Mechanic and Male Stripper turned Agency Owner, Gym owner and Holistic Lifestyle Coach, Josh Hardy. Josh lived a life making decisions ruled by fear of not being enough, and self pity from not meeting high standards. He quit his job to pursue his passion in health & fitness, hand built his gym from scratch and is still on a huge journey of personal growth to become a better human, role model and leader. Josh and I recently connected again at a men's group after 15 years of lost contact. As kids, we used to play soccer together and now Josh offers me a fascinating peek behind the curtain into the stripping industry, from the hen's nights and dance shows to the pressure to perform to the insecurities.
- Josh's beginnings in Stripping
- Reconciling Stripping with a day job
- Being open, honest and sure of yourself
- Fitting in in male dominated spaces
- Fantasy and the popularity of Strippers
- The emphasising of physical appearance
- Insecurities in the industry
- Performance anxiety
Josh's Instagram - @thejoshuahardy
Josh's Instagram - @smacademyaus
Josh's Website - www.smacademy.com.au
On episode 9 of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Harris O’Malley. Harris is a dating coach who provides geek dating advice at ‘Paging Dr. NerdLove’, as well as on Kotaku and elsewhere. Harris’s impressive work has been featured on Nightline, Vice, The Guardian, New York Magazine, The Huffington Post, Wired, Sex Nerd Sandra, Daily Life, Slate, The Austin-American Statesman, Austin Monthly, Geek and Sundry, Boing Boing, Everyday Feminism, Buzzfeed, The BBC, The New Yorker, The New York Post, The Daily Dot, The Washington Post, Kotaku, Lifehacker, NeilStrauss.com, The Good Man Project, MTV’s Guy Code, The Harvard Business Journal, and many others!
- Harris' journey from pick up artist to dating coach
- Unlearning pick up artistry bullshit
- The positive sides of the pick up artist community
- Real dating advice for men
- Having a healthy casual sex life
- Models of masculinity
- More practical advice
- Harris' Twitter: @DrNerdLove
- Harris' Instagram: @DrNerdLove
- Harris' Facebook: DrNerdLove
- Cam's Instagram - @thecamfraser
In episode 8, I chat with wellness wizard Ryan McKenna. Ryan embodies ancient knowledge and wisdom, in unison with modernized teachings and techniques to create alchemic medicine to nourish the mind, body and soul. Fusing together elements of Celtic shamanism, Druidism, Astrology and herbalism to create optimized transformative awakening journeys for high dimensional existence. Ryan specializes in detoxification and regeneration of the physical organs through sacred healing modalities, sacred sexuality, nutritional balancing, fasting, qigong and elemental meditational journeys through ceremonial sound and music therapy. Bringing the body forward into balance and harmony, on a multidimensional level, by clearing stagnation and blockages, releasing toxic belief systems, and creating space within one’s vessel allow new higher frequencies to enter and prepare the soul to ascend into higher realms of consciousness to embody new earth golden age frequencies.
- Ryan's initiation into sacred sexuality teachings
- What does sacred sexuality look like?
- Tantra and Celtic Paganism
- The Divine Masculine and Feminine
- Western esotericism
- Masculine energy and how to cultivate it
- Practical tips for sacred sex
Ryan's Instagram - @theshamanicleprechaun
Ryan's Website - sacredscotlandtour.com
Cam's Instagram - @thecamfraser
On episode 7 of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I had a very special and vulnerable conversation with Amos. Amos is a loving partner as well as an adventurous father who is on a journey of self-love and self-healing. Amos is passionate about connecting with people. Mos is working in construction and studying to be a personal trainer. In this conversation, Mos shares a little chunk of his story about sexual trauma, vulnerability, masculinity and intimacy. Amos very much feels it is a subject that gets left in the dark and that there’s so much shame around it. Because of his journey of self-development, Mos felt that it was right to share his story. He also wants you to remember you are not alone.
- An introduction to Mos
- Maori culture and masculinity
- Mos share's his story about sexual abuse
- Doing the work and overcoming trauma
- Being vulnerable with a partner
- Friendships with men and women
- Working through shame and having better sex
Mos' Instagram - @mosman_nepia
Cam's Instagram - @thecamfraser
On episode 6 of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Herbal Alchemist, Kitchen Wizard, Sex Magician, Mescalero and traveller on the Poison Path, Joel Camp. Joel is a student of the natural world, its medicines, its magick and its mysteries. Joel is a good friend of mine and is an absolute wizard when it comes to plant medicine. I met him several years ago when he was dishing up incredible plant-based food at some of Perth's best restaurants and cafes. During the podcast we talk about Joel’s journey in overcoming sexual function issues with the use of herbs and adaptogens. We also discussed ways in which you can incorporate aphrodisiacs into your sex life. This is an episode about cultivating relationships with natural medicines.
- Joel's journey overcoming sexual function issues using natural remedies
- Joel's recommendations for natural sexual enhancers
- Things to be aware of when working with plant medicine
- Aphrodisiacs and their qualities
- How to integrate aphrodisiacs into your sex life
- The erotic nature of food
- Practical advice for exploring this area of your sexuality
Joel's Instagram: @the_earth.blessings
Cam's Instagram: @thecamfraser
On episode 5, I chat with Will Blunderfield. Will is a yogi, podcast host seeker, and a dedicated champion of the men’s rewilding movement. Will has spent the last 11 years teaching yoga throughout Canada, the US and Asia. Recently, Will completed a year long Kundalini yoga teacher training program in Vancouver and India and Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction Facilitator training which is a program from University of Massachusetts Medical School. Will also has a degree in Musical Theatre from the American Musical & Dramatic Academy of New York (AMDA) as well as a degree in psychology from UBC with a minor in Food, Nutrition & Health. He was grateful to study in 2020 with Sexual Kung Fu Taoist Grandmaster himself, Mantak Chia. He performs original Kirtan/Sacred Song in his classes, retreats and workshops and his music is released through Nettwerk Records and Sony. His original music has reached number one on the iTunes world music charts multiple times. Will offers classes, courses and sessions of Kundalini Yoga, Sexual Kung Fu/Semen Retention Training, meditation, and mindfulness. Will is enthusiastic about his work and has a lot of insight to share with his wide variety of teachings. During the podcast, we chat about how using sound, yoga, and nudity can heal men's sexual insecurities. You can discover more about Will and his work on his website - https://willblunderfield.ca/
- Will's journey through the music industry
- How Will came to teach naked men's yoga
- The use of sound to explore and express sexuality
- Sexual repression by the dominator system
- Circumcision, penis size and body acceptance
- The brain and balls connection
- Practical tips for male sexual health
Only Fans: www.onlyfans.com/willblunderfield
Podcast: Urban Yogi Podcast
Cam's Instagram: www.instagram.com/thecamfraser
On episode 4, I chat with transformational coach, facilitator and very close friend of mine, Tully O’Connor. Tully works primarily with men and offers a space for Men to develop more depth, live into their purpose, create rich connected relationships and expand their influence as integrated leaders in all aspects of their lives through powerful 1:1 coaching sessions, transformational online programs & facilitating life changing experiences at workshops and retreats. Tully is deeply proud of is his relationship with his wife Kaitlin and being a father to their son. During this podcast we chat about career, healthy relationship frameworks, leadership, being present, vulnerability and what leadership means in a sexual context. You can discover more about Tully and his work on his website - https://www.tullyoconnor.co/
- Tully's story about his career
- Framework for a healthy relationship
- How to show up in a relationship
- Tully's definition of presence
- Sexual leadership
- Strategies for communication in a relationship
- Being aware of the state you're in
Podcast: Conscious Locker Room podcast
On episode three, I chat with Kai Schweizer, a sexologist, sexual health educator, and Masters student. He has a specialist interest in trans and gender diverse sexual health, including dyspareunia, contraception, and HIV prevention. Kai is best known for his sexual health education work with queer young people. This is an eye opening conversation as Kai share's some of his personal story, including his gender transition, as well as some valuable insights into models of masculinity.
Today I had the pleasure of talking with someone who I consider both a mentor and friend, Dr. Simon Martin. He is a registered chiropractor and the founder of Heartschool. Simon has studied psychology and anatomy at Curtin University before completing his chiropractic degree at Murdoch University. He has had the opportunity to teach neurology at tertiary level as well as work in Singapore's Camden Medical Centre. Simon is sought after for his exceptional knowledge and skills in body-based practices and has shared the stage with new world pioneers of Tantra, Yoga, Shibari and Shamanism. This is was a very interesting conversation about trauma responses and how they manifest during sexuality work.
Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser
The intention with this podcast is to platform people who perhaps haven't been part of the discourse around masculinity and sexuality in the mainstream, spiritual, Tantra and sacred sexuality communities. From sex workers, male strippers, and relationship coaches to psychosexual therapists, transgender educators and indigenous men, "Men, Sex & Pleasure" is a podcast discussing all things masculinity, sexuality, male bodies and men's experience of pleasure.