On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Luna Agneya (She/They). Luna is a Sensuality and Relating expert - teaching, coaching and creating events & immersions in the field of Sensuality and conscious connection for many years. A certified VITA Integrated Sex, Love and Relationship coach, Tantric Yogini, event manager and designer, Luna has fused together her many skills and passions into projects dedicated to the liberation of people through the erotic, through relationships and through the shadow work of kink and taboos. Luna runs retreats and events around the world and is the headmistress of the Sensual Arts School, an online school for Tantra and Sacred sexuality that is queer friendly and kink positive. The two of us talk about one of Luna’s passions; erotic shadow work. We discuss what it is, why it is important, and how you can start exploring it.
Luna shares some of her story Integrating spirituality and sexuality Strategies for beginning shadow work Cultural vs personal shadows Integrating your shadow Generational trauma Shadow aspects of pornography Advice for people interested in shadow work
Cam’s Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thecamfraser
Luna’s Instagram: @sensual.artistry
Luna’s Instagram: @sensualartsschool
Luna’s website: www.sensualartistry.com
Luna’s website: www.sensualarts.school
Luna’s upcoming Shadow Work course: https://www.sensualarts.school/shadow-self-worship
On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Lana Jade. Lana is an intimacy coach as well as an adult industry coach/mentor. She has been in the industry for 7 years, and during that time she has had an incredibly successful career. Lana began in the industry as many do, desperate and in need of money to turn her dreams into a reality, and to feed her family. She had always been interested in and fascinated by the adult industry and in a sense she is grateful that desperation led to her exploring it. Lana comes from a sales and marketing background and is determined, strong willed and resourceful, so it wasn't long after working for agencies and others that she started working independently. By navigating the industry’s rapid changes, feeling overwhelmed at times, reworking strategies and systems continuously, and shifting her priorities, Lana developed a very structured and systematic way that works for her, earning her more than she has ever earned, while also having the balance she craved. She has made the industry work for her. And that's exactly what she wants to do with others. The two of us talk about her experience in the adult industry as well as the stigmatization she has felt from the spirituality community and how she works with clients.
- Lana shares about her experience in the adult industry
- Integrating other modalities
- Emotional burnout and compassion fatigue
- Mentoring others in the industry
- Stigmatization from the Sacred Sexuality community
- “Real” women vs adult performers
- Only Fans, camming, and authenticity
- Male clients, pleasure, and communication
- Advice for potential clients
Lana’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/lanajadexxx
Lana’s podcast: @are.you.available.podcast
Lana’s Instagram: @whatss.my.name.again
On this episode of #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with The Empress Jazmin Wu a professional, and lifestyle Dominatrix, best known for Her radical theories about BDSM, and teachings on empowerment. Jazmin’s journey into the world of FemDom began in 2012, and She has since been seen gracing the pages of magazines, hosting luxury fetish events, and uniting women in charge everywhere! She has a deep passion for rope bondage, female lead erotica, and sexual psychology. You can find her curating art-fetish photoshoots, teaching Women about the FemDom lifestyle, and hosting elite kink lifestyle parties all over the globe. She believes BDSM is a unique tool that can be harnessed to pursue better physical, emotional, and mental health. In Her practice as a Dominatrix, She challenges concepts of guilt and shame by fostering a safe environment fueled by radical acceptance. The two of us talk about the submissive mentality as well as what it takes to hold space for a man who is interested in submission.
- Jazmin shares about her journey with BDSM
- The spectrum of kink
- Holding space for submissives
- The submissive mentality
- Letting go of performance anxiety
- Reframing sexual validation
- Sexual symbols and rituals
- Boundaries, exploration, and safewords
- Sub-space and trance states
Jazmin’s website: jazminwu.com
Jazmin’s Twitter: @thankyouempress
Jazmin’s Instagram: @thank.you.empress
Jazmin’s Dominatrix website: thankyouempress.com
On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Brad Gage. Brad is a guy who grew up in the Midwest, joined a fraternity, drank a lot, watched a lot of movies, and learned a lot of the wrong ways to treat women. And it’s not like it was exactly his fault or anything, that’s what society was telling him he should want to do. But once he started really listening to the women in his life, he realized how totally disconnected and frankly messed up all of his ideas of being a man were. So, once he recognized the problems, he set out to talk to men about it in a way that’s not preachy or shameful (because guys don’t know this stuff until they talk about it), but instead he wanted to give a little perspective and some ideas on how to replace their behaviors. Basically, he thinks it’s better for women AND men if dudes tried to dominate a little less and collaborate a little more. The two of us talk about the way men are represented in mainstream media and how these representations often perpetuate harmful stereotypes about what it means to be a man. We also discuss the importance of media literacy as well as examples of positive portrayals of men in media.
- Brad shares about his upbringing
- How do media images of men affect our lives?
- Toxic vs positive masculinity
- Stereotypical portrayals of men
- Representations that challenge stereotypes
- Critically thinking about media
- The importance of diverse representation
Brad’s Instagram: @beauradley
Brad’s Twitter: @bradgage
On this episode of #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with The Authentic Man, David Chambers. David empowers men to create the exciting and deeply connected dating lives, sex lives and relationships they long for by developing their true authentic selves. As a Dating & Intimacy coach, coaching men for over a decade, David guides men to create authentic attraction, build deep emotional connections, embody healthy masculinity, and experience connected sexual intimacy. By helping them build self-awareness, emotional intelligence and self-leadership. The two of us talk about finding your purpose and how to balance this with your passions as well as the most common self-imposed barriers that men face when dating. David also shares about his experience as a Black man in the UK doing this work.
- David shares about his work and passions
- Purpose vs passion
- Co-creating attraction and intimacy
- Overthinking and anxiety
- Treating dating like a video game
- Invitations vs expectations
- British masculinity and being a Black man
- Race and the white spirituality community
David’s Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/
David’s Instagram: @theauthenticman_
Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser
The intention with this podcast is to platform people who perhaps haven't been part of the discourse around masculinity and sexuality in the mainstream, spiritual, Tantra and sacred sexuality communities. From sex workers, male strippers, and relationship coaches to psychosexual therapists, transgender educators and indigenous men, "Men, Sex & Pleasure" is a podcast discussing all things masculinity, sexuality, male bodies and men's experience of pleasure.