On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Court Vox. Court provides personal guidance and expertise in the unique and often ignored areas of sex. He is a trained Sex and Intimacy Consultant, Surrogate Partner Intern and Sacred Intimate. His approach is personal and necessary. Founder of his practice The Body Vox, he brings professional opportunities for his clients to learn about and embrace their bodies and those of others. Sex, the thing the world is now acknowledging as so important for our general wellness, mental health and indeed our lives is on the agenda. While much progress has been made it is still too often a taboo subject. Court serves as the counselor of our times breaking down the walls of shame and anxiety around intimacy and sex. Traditional forms of therapy are done through talk, the work of a somatic sex educator is to further this form of work via touch and body-based exercises in comfortable, judgment-free, and safe environments. Body acceptance, exploration of sensation and desires (and learning how to ask for what you want), boundary-setting and intimacy work are some of the many reasons clients seek this form of therapy. Court is a sex educator experienced working with clients of all sexualities and genders. He continues to collaborate with fellow sex educator Pamela Madsen for workshops around the country. The two of us talk about his work as a surrogate partner as well as what it means to be multi-orgasmic.
- Court shares some of his story
- Transitioning from corporate to sexuality work
- The different modalities Court draws on
- Self-pleasure rituals
- What is surrogate partner therapy?
- Surrogate partner therapy vs sex work
- Client-centered approach
- Sexual orientation and surrogate partner therapy
- The many types of male orgasm
- 31+ erogenous zones
Court’s Instagram: @courtvox
Court’s Website: thebodyvox.com
Cam’s Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thecamfraser
Today on #mensexpleasure, I chat with Ian Collins. Ian has spent his career working with organisations on some of the riskiest frontiers to build more resilient and reliable systems that keep planes in skies, prevent oil rigs from blowing up, nuclear plants from melting down, getting people home safely to their families and keeping the environment free from harm. What he has discovered is that similar principles that create the conditions for safety in workplaces can be just as applicable to creating safety in relationships. He now helps men learn the tools and resources to create trust and safety, taking their relationships from struggling and stagnant to being passionate, healthy, balanced and loving. The two of us talk about Ian’s work and how he translates occupational safety principles into relationship advice. We also discuss what creating safety and holding space looks like in a relational as well as a sexual context.
- Ian shares about why he does this work
- Workplace accidents and safety
- Translating principles into relationships
- What does it mean to create safety?
- Masculinity and space holding
- Femininity and surrendering
- Safety in an erotic context
- Relationships dynamics and longevity
- Advice for men
Ian’s Instagram: @ianpcollins
Ian’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ipcollins
On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Andrew Gurza (they/he). Andrew is a Disability Awareness Consultant and Cripple Content Creator. In their work, he seeks to explore how the lived experience of disability feels, as it interplays with intersectional communities. By using hashtags like #diSAYbled, #DisabilityAfterDark, #BearinAChair and #KissAQueerCripple Andrew shares their lived experiences of disability, queerness, sexuality and body image in a raw, vulnerable and unapologetic fashion. He has presented all across North America on sex and disability as a Queer Crippled man. Their written work has been highlighted in Out Magazine, The Advocate and Huffington Post. He hosts the Disability After Dark podcast, which shines a bright light on sex and disability, while also aiming to explore parts of the disabled experience that we don’t often hear about. The two of us talk about Andrew’s experience and expression of sexuality and masculinity as well as the nuances of what it is like to be a queer man with a disability.
- Andrew introduces himself
- Ableism and creating spaces for learning
- The sexual stigma of disability
- Disability representation in porn
- Considerations for sex with a disabled person
- The depth of “yes”
- Andrew’s relationship with care
- Using social media to raise awareness
- Playing with identity, femininity and masculinity
- Assumptions about people with a disability
Andrew’s website: http://www.andrewgurza.com/
Andrew’s Twitter/Instagram: @andrewgurza_
On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Tim Lagman. Tim is a certified sex educator with the American College of Sexologists International and pleasure advocate based in Toronto, Canada. He began his sexual journey through escorting where he worked with a number of clients from different backgrounds and all walks of life ranging from couples, individuals, poly relationships, and everything in between. He then went to study Business Management specializing in the music industry and graduated with honours. In his free time, Tim likes to volunteer and give back to the community through outreach in Toronto’s LGBT scene providing sex education and harm reduction resources to the public. It is his mission in life to make sex fun and funny as he loves to make people laugh and believes in the curative powers of laughter. The two of us talk about rimming, multiple orgasms, and edging we well as Tim’s lived experience as a gay Asian man who works as a sexuality professional.
- Tim shares about his escorting journey
- From escort to sex educator
- Masturbation vs Self-Pleasure
- Multi-orgasmic experiences
- Anal play, rimming and personal hygiene
- Edging techniques and strategies
- Stereotypes about Asian men
- The intersection of being Asian and gay
Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser
The intention with this podcast is to platform people who perhaps haven't been part of the discourse around masculinity and sexuality in the mainstream, spiritual, Tantra and sacred sexuality communities. From sex workers, male strippers, and relationship coaches to psychosexual therapists, transgender educators and indigenous men, "Men, Sex & Pleasure" is a podcast discussing all things masculinity, sexuality, male bodies and men's experience of pleasure.