On episode 42 of The Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Jeff Abraham, the CEO of Absorption Pharmaceuticals, the manufacturer of Promescent. Born in Pittsburgh Pennsylvania, Jeff moved to California chasing the burgeoning semiconductor industry, where he opened a successful staffing agency and retired early to focus on his role as a single father after winning a $9.5M lawsuit against Hyundai for their illegal hiring practices. When family friend Dr. Ronald Gilbert asked for Jeff's business advice on his new product Promescent, Jeff immediately invested in the company after trying the product once. Brought on as Promescent CEO in early 2012, Jeff was charged with taking Promescent from a boutique brand one could purchase from a Doctor’s website to a global wellness company. Today, Jeff has placed the fan-favorite male delay spray in Target and consistently maintains the spot as one of Amazon’s highest-selling sexual wellness products. We talk about Promescent, men’s expectations of sex and the technology behind male genital desinsitizers, known as “delay sprays.”
- Jeff shares about his journey with Promescent
- Talking openly about sex as an older man
- Men’s warped expectations about sex
- The need for sexual enhancement products
- Brief history of male genital desensitizers
- What sets Promescent apart from the competition?
- How does a “delay spray” work?
- What are the adverse effects?
- Emphasizing communication and pleasure
- The future of Promescent
Jeff’s Twitter: @jeffabraham111
Jeff’s Instagram: @jeffabraham111
On episode 41 of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Karis Topkin. Karis is a mother, a lover, and a healer, helping people to reclaim their pleasure and heal their traumas, allowing them to follow their own heart-led path and create a life that feels deliciously good, connected, and rooted in pleasure and wholeness. Karis and I talk about her work with men in South Africa and the hands-off sexual healing modalities that she uses in her conservative community. We also discuss strategies for holding space for men, allowing them to open up and release emotions by embodying the Mother Archetype. We close with a brief discussion about sexual energy and pleasure across the lifespan.
- Karis’ journey reclaiming pleasure
- Masculinity in South Africa
- Male gratification vs female pleasure
- Karis’ work with men
- The Mother Archetype vs mothering
- Feeling comfortable holding space for men
- Energy work vs body work
- Healing inner child wounds
- Sexual energy and pleasure
Karis’ Instagram: @karistopkin
Karis’ TikTok: @karis_healing
On episode 40 of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast I chat with Lola Jean. Lola is a Sex Educator, Mental Health Professional, Wrestler, Domme and World Record Holder for Volume Squirting (solo.) providing the No Frills Sex Education we both need and deserve. Lola brings a refreshing understanding to sex, sexuality and kink to push individuals past what they think they are capable of. Lola offers a variety of classes and talks to help people have better sex with themselves and each other like Pegging, Squirting, and Libido Awakening. A variety of paid and free options of classes and talks, plus a podcast with The Reluctant Sexpert: ‘Is Our Love ___?’, there are a variety of options to indulge. Lola and I talked about squirting, pegging, rimming, and broadening your definition of sex. We also spoke about the pressure both men and women feel to perform sex a certain way.
- Lola shares about her no-nonsense approach to sex education
- Sexualization vs objectification vs fetishization
- Sexual pressures and expectations
- Faking orgasms for men’s ego
- You’re not responsible for your partner’s pleasure
- Can every woman squirt?
- Is squirting pee?
- Squirting and orgasm are two separate things?
- Not all women enjoy squirting
- Pegging, anal penetration and submission
- Broadening your definition of sex
Lola’s Instagram: @lolajeandotcom
Lola’s Website: https://lolajean.com/
On Episode 39 of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I have a great discussion with Sarah Hunter Murray about the most common myths surrounding masculinity, sexuality and men. Sarah holds a Ph.D. in Human Sexuality from the University of Guelph and is a Registered Marriage & Family Therapist in private practice in Winnipeg, Manitoba. She is the author of the book "Not Always in the Mood: The new science of men, sex, & relationships." I loved Sarah’s book and the research she presents in it. We talk about that research as well as her observations about men in relationships. We also explore some practical advice for men and their partners to help overcome the myths and stereotypes that may be hindering them in their relationships.
- Sarah shares about her research and book
- Science vs popular media and societal norms
- Men internally wrestling with sexual scripts
- Men’s sex drive isn’t high and unwavering
- Men and women have the same sexual desire
- Giving men the language to talk about sex
- Men desire to be desired
- Sex isn’t just surface level for men
- Men don’t always say “yes” to sex
- Practical advice for men in relationships
Sarah’s website: https://www.sarahhuntermurray.com/
Sarah’s book: https://www.amazon.com/Always-Mood-SARAH-HUNTER-MURRAY/dp/1538149400/
Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser
The intention with this podcast is to platform people who perhaps haven't been part of the discourse around masculinity and sexuality in the mainstream, spiritual, Tantra and sacred sexuality communities. From sex workers, male strippers, and relationship coaches to psychosexual therapists, transgender educators and indigenous men, "Men, Sex & Pleasure" is a podcast discussing all things masculinity, sexuality, male bodies and men's experience of pleasure.