On The Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Shaft Uddin, a Speaker, Coach and a Somatic Trauma Release Therapist and Content Creator. Shaft has helped men and women from all walks of life overcome trauma by connecting them back to themselves. He creates safe spaces for people to connect with themselves and others through retreats and workshops all over the world. Shaft broke free from his strict devout Muslim upbringing of working in an Indian restaurant and forced arrange marriages and made his own way through life from being homeless to becoming a successful Art Director. 6 years ago he left his house and 6 figure salary in London to pursue the spiritual path. He turned his tragic story, mental illness, broken relationships and addiction into his super powers and turned it into a successful business to help others. The thing that healed him became his passion. His work and viral videos have reached over 38.7 million people via social media and various other media outlets including the BBC, Vice, Times magazine, The Guardian and many more. Shaft also consults for major brands such as Samsung, Mercedes and Disney in creating content. Shaft's mission is to make Stockholm the epicentre of connection and intimacy... the opposite of what it is right now! We talk about Shaft’s personal experiences with Tantra and his advice for achieving multiple orgasms.
Shaft introduces himself as the “Wim Hof of Tantra”
Portraying Tantra in the mainstream media
Living in the Tantra bubble
Lineages and finding your own path
Shaft’s personal daily practice
What is an injaculation?
Conscious ejaculation and consecration
Ejaculation shaming and non-ejaculatory orgasm
What does a non-ejaculatory orgasm feel like?
Researching multiple orgasms for men
“I love my life, I love my body, I love myself”
Shaft’s Instagram: @shaftuddin
Shaft’s YouTube: www.youtube.com/user/shaftuddin/
Shaft’s Website: www.sacredsexualawakening.com
Today on The Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Ginger Jen. Ginger (she/they) is the empowering authentic sexuality dating coach for busy/neuro diverse brains. She works with Tantric philosophies and somatic healing to reach the deep subconscious and unconscious. Their mission here is to empower each individual human being to be authentically true to themselves by bringing them from a busy mind to a sensational body. She wants to share the best, most healing tactics through discussions, conversations and realizations. Ginger is ADHD and an advocate for mental disabilities as well as mental health. She is also strictly anti-oppression of any beings so warns to beware of the triggering truth bombs. We talk about their ADHD diagnosis and how it intersects with her sexuality as well as her work in the sexuality space. Ginger also shares some really practical advice for neurodivergent individuals and people who have a neurodivergent partner.
- Ginger shares some of her story
- Ginger explains what ADHD is
- Strategies for getting into your body
- How do people with ADHD express their sexuality?
- ADHD and sexual rejection
- Communicating with a partner who has ADHD
- ADHD and high risk sexual behaviour
- Ginger shares about her diagnosis with ADHD
- The intersection of escorting and ADHD
- Working with men in the sexuality space
- The women who sell sex and men who buy it
- Online coaching and final thoughts
Ginger’s website: www.ecstaticallyginger.com
Ginger’s Instagram: @ecstatically.ginger
Ginger’s Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/ecstaticallyginger
This episode of The Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast is part 2 of my conversation about pornography. If you haven’t listened to part 1, I would definitely suggest listening to that first as it sets the context for this episode. Previously, I spoke about how we define porn, my position in the porn debate, the difference between mainstream and ethical porn, and some of the common problems the porn perpetuates. There are so many other things that I didn’t share or forgot to share regarding my opinion on pornography but, as I mentioned in the previous episode, I am not trying to convince anyone of anything. Rather, I want to introduce some nuance into the conversation about porn that I see people in my community having. This episode is a continuation of that intention and offers some other perspectives to consider. Again, there are things I missed but will hopefully revisit in episodes to come. Thank you so much for supporting the podcast. I’m excited for another year of amazing guests, thought-provoking conversations and deep learning. This podcast would not be a success without the guests and listening, so I thank you all from the bottom of my heart.
Similarity between video games and pornography
How are people using porn?
Two conversations: Consumers and masturbators
Stop the demand or change the demand?
The problem with how people are masturbating
Mindfully using porn as a tool
Becoming reliant on porn for arousal
The 20% rule
Continuing conversations and thank you
This is a special episode of The Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast. Today’s episode celebrates a year of “Men, Sex & Pleasure.” It has been such an amazing year and I feel really grateful to have spoken with 51 incredible guests who have all taught me so much. To celebrate a year of the podcast, I decided to record my first solo episode. When I reflected on what I wanted to talk about, a lot of things came to mind. However, there was one topic which really stood out to me. I get asked on a daily basis about pornography. Without fail, everyday someone, somewhere asks me something about porn. I have a lot to say about porn and having to respond every single time with my myriad of thoughts is usually impossible. So I had the idea to record an episode about my opinion on pornography which I can share with people when they ask me for my thoughts. Like I said, I have a lot to say and this ended up becoming a two part instalment. This episode is part 1 and is released alongside part 2. If you’re interested in the nuances of the porn debate, hopefully you’ll find these two parts interesting. I’m not trying to convince anyone of anything, just have a conversation. Thank you for supporting the podcast for a whole year. I look forward to bringing more interesting conversations in the year to come.
Introduction to and intentions for the conversation
I understand the harm some porn has caused
Anti-Porn vs Pro-Porn vs Anti-Anti-Porn
What is porn? The problem with definitions
The problem with the “porn is a drug” analogy
Thought experiment: Where do you draw the line?
Operation Spanner and private sex groups
Mainstream vs Ethical (Feminist) porn
Messages, escalation, addiction, exploitation
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The intention with this podcast is to platform people who perhaps haven't been part of the discourse around masculinity and sexuality in the mainstream, spiritual, Tantra and sacred sexuality communities. From sex workers, male strippers, and relationship coaches to psychosexual therapists, transgender educators and indigenous men, "Men, Sex & Pleasure" is a podcast discussing all things masculinity, sexuality, male bodies and men's experience of pleasure.