On The Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Mish Middelmann. Mish is the co-founder and first CEO of a hi-tech software and services start-up in the 1990s, turned systemic leadership coach since 2010. Mish was fit, healthy and sexually active when he was diagnosed with prostate cancer in November 2019, at the age of 61. He is now back to being fit and healthy and sexually active in quite different ways after a radical prostatectomy surgery in 2020. Mish and I talk about his diagnosis with prostate cancer as well as the process he went through for surgery and recovery. We also discuss the impacts that his prostatectomy had on his experience of masculinity and sexuality, such as not feeling virile, struggling to get erections, and not ejaculating anymore. Mish also shares how he has rediscovered and reconnected with his manhood and life in general, including his relationship with his partner.
- Mish talks about his diagnosis
- The process of prostatectomy
- Recovery and rehabilitation
- Impacts on masculinity and virility
- Erectile dysfunction after prostate surgery
- Learning new ways of being sexual
- Viagra, penis pumps and dry orgasms
- Reconnecting with a partner
Mish’s Twitter: @RecoveringMan1
Mish’s website: www.recoveringman.net
On The Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Dexter Kendrick, affectionately known as Dr. Dex by his clients. Dexter has been a practicing psychic/medium and astrologer since 2001. He has written horoscopes for newspaper, magazine copy, and been a regular guest on NuSpirit talk radio out of NYC since 2011. He has taught and published articles on psychic self-development and astrological understanding of our psychology. He has done research into personality studies at the University of Hartford, and offered astrological, tarot, and spiritual conversations on love and relationships for the public via private practice. He also does weekly LIVE Facebook psychic readings on his show “Love 911 Tarot” on Facebook and Instagram, coaching clients on love, sex, relationships, family, money, and career. As a medium, he also reconnects clients with loved ones who are dearly departed should they wish it.
Over the last 11 years as a doctor of spiritual 5 element acupuncture, Dexter has brought this evidence-based transformative healing technique to the Mediterranean and Northern Europe, the Middle East, South and Central America, Mexico, Canada, and the Caribbean. Using a results based philosophy, along with educational self-care techniques, Dexter enlightens and demonstrates to patients the powerful ability of their bodies and minds to change. He is currently lead supervising doctor of clinical acupuncture interns at the Maryland University of Integrative Health, where he also serves as adjunct faculty and senate member. Dexter and I talk about his work with men as an acupuncturist and practitioner of Natural Medicine. We discuss men’s health and share some advice about how to improve your own wellbeing. We also explore some of Dexter’s journey with mediumship.
Dexter introduces himself
Eastern Medicine vs Western Medicine
Fertility and conception
Changing your diet for sexual health
Mediumship and sexuality
Telling people about their future
Practicing Chinese Medicine as a Black man
Dexter’s Facebook: @love911tarot
Dexter’s Instagram: @love911tarot
On The Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Lauren White, a woman on a mission to help people feel sexually confident. Originally from Denver, Colorado, Lauren moved to San Diego in 2011 to pursue an M.A. in Communication. At the age of 23, she became an adjunct professor, teaching at colleges and correctional facilities in San Diego. During her time as a professor, she recognized a need for real conversations about sex and sexuality. Identifying as a sexually curious person, and having a feminist studies background, Lauren left her position in the college classroom to pursue teaching to a global classroom. She prides herself on being very relatable, funny, and passionate during conversations that may normally be categorized as awkward with both men and women. When she is not having or talking about sex, Lauren in an ardent explorer, having visited over 20 countries, and 42 U.S. States. She once sold all of her belongings and moved into a custom built van in the pursuit of uncharted adventure. She’s a bit of an adrenaline junkie, dances her heart out, and has a uniquely close relationship with her family. Lauren and I talk about what it means to be sexually confident and how you too can embody sexual confidence. I also ask her about what we can do to help boost our partner’s sexual confidence.
- Lauren shares the evolution of her message
- What does it mean to be sexually confident?
- The way we talk about masturbation and sex
- The problem with being “good in bed”
- Embodying your pleasure
- Learning to communicate
- Comfortability and sexual confidence
- Your body is a playground
- Advice for women
- Advice for men
Lauren’s Instagram: @shewolflauren
The Sex Den’s Instagram: @thesexden
On The Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Asa Baav, the founder of Tailor Matched - a nationwide thought leader in romantic and sexual compatibility in the UK. As a matchmaker, coach and speaker Asa is on a mission to remove taboo from sexual desires and create the freedom to own your wants and needs in life and in the bedroom. The two of us talk about her matchmaking agency and how it all came about. Asa shares about her approach to matchmaking and the stigmas surrounding online dating services.
- Asa shares about her agency, Tailor Matched
- Matchmaking vs Coaching
- What is sexual compatibility?
- Collecting information about our sexual desires
- Approaching conversations about sexual function
- Dating: Don’t waste your time
- Who is using matchmaking services?
- Expanding the dating pool
- The stigma of using a matchmaking service
- Emphasizing connection over appearance
Tailor Matched’s Instagram: @tailormatched
Asa’s Instagram: @coachwithasa
Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser
The intention with this podcast is to platform people who perhaps haven't been part of the discourse around masculinity and sexuality in the mainstream, spiritual, Tantra and sacred sexuality communities. From sex workers, male strippers, and relationship coaches to psychosexual therapists, transgender educators and indigenous men, "Men, Sex & Pleasure" is a podcast discussing all things masculinity, sexuality, male bodies and men's experience of pleasure.