On season 2, episode 16 of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Dr. Juliana, the “girl next door” (with a PhD). Dr. Juliana is always up for a down and dirty conversation about sexuality and intimacy. As a credentialed therapist, academic, and a bonafide (s)expert, Dr. Juliana has spent decades counseling and supporting thousands of individuals on their paths to discover and own their sexual agency. Having traversed her own journey through love, loss, motherhood, and the world of academics, Dr. Julianahas come to understand that ownership over one’s own sexuality is the at the foundation of every fulfilled and confident person. She has developed a clear, action-driven method to help people of all backgrounds discover their own path to authenticity through holistic sexuality. Dr. Juliana is a certified by Betty Dodson as a BodySex Workshop facilitator and offers tons of tips, insight and support through coaching, therapy, online courses and in person retreats for becoming your own (s)expert over at dr-juliana.com. We chat about working with men, the differences between being a man and woman in this space, and how we can get men to open up to talk about sex.
- Dr. Juliana shares some of her history working with men
- Getting comfortable talking about sex
- Men working with men vs men working with women
- Private vs public work
- Specialising and collaborating
- Celebrating sexual wins
- Educating and problem solving
- Healthy sexuality impacting our lives
- How can women make men feel safe to be vulnerable
Dr. Juliana's Instagram: @drjulianahauser
Dr. Juliana's Facebook: Dr. Juliana
On episode 15 of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He is author of the blog Sex and Psychology and the popular book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works, including a textbook titled The Psychology of Human Sexuality that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller is a much sought-after voice in the media on sexuality research and education. He has been interviewed by The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, and CNN, and he has appeared on dozens of international radio, podcast, and television programs. We discuss his research about fantasies and particularly about what men fantasize about, as well as how to healthy explore your desires.
- Dr. Lehmiller introduces his research
- The most common fantasies
- Differences between men's and women's fantasies
- Men's fantasies and pressure to be a certain way
- Shame about our fantasies
- The origin of sexual fantasies
- Underlying emotional needs
- Dr. Lehmiller's dial analogy
- Advice for exploring sexual fantasies
Dr. Lehmiller's website: www.lehmiller.com
On episode 14 of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Taylor Johnson about sexual energy sublimation. Taylor is a sex educator and intimacy coach who helps men master their sex lives in an integrated way. Our philosophies about masculinity and sexuality seem to align and so Taylor and I had a great conversation about the practical elements of sexual energy transmutation and sublimation.
If you've ever been interested in learning how to work with sexual energy and use it to create and manifest other things, this is the episode for you.
Key points:- Taylor's personal reflections
- Ejaculation, ejaculation, ejaculation
- NoFap vs Sublimation
- The difference between transmutation and sublimation
- No woo-woo advice for moving sexual energy
- Change the way you masturbate
- The role of porn in sublimation practices
- Sharing sexual energy with a partner
Taylor's Instagram @taylorclarkjohnson
Taylor's website - https://www.taylorjohnson.life
On episode 13 of the Men Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with entrepreneur, artist, and Shamanic practitioner, Paisley Heart. Paisley embodies the hybrid archetypes of the Wild Businessman and Lifestyle Artist. Founder of the shamanic rite of passage event The Funeral and panel style podcast Curious Conversations, and previously such businesses as the holistic digital marketing agency DigiLove and Independent record label Fight Music - his gifts are truly unique and diverse.
Paisley is known to prowl the mysterious shadow realms of business. With the flaming torch of innovation, he sets the normal and mundane ablaze with alternative business approaches. By combining his obsession with spirituality, artistic expression, nature, and ritual, Paisley has made a strong impact on the music, social media marketing, and personal development industries. Paisley’s unorthodox style has often been challenging for his clients and for professionals in the industry. Pushing against these paradigms has become a strong and recognizable brand he is proud of. Paisley has proven that he has a sharp eye in discerning who he works with and where he invests his creative magic. The accolades, achievements, and rapid growth shared between his clients, artists and business are a testament to his uniqueness and grit.
- Paisley shares a part of his story
- Bisexuality and sexual fluidity
- Feeling comfortable exploring sexuality
- Creating a container for transformation
- The recipe for ritual
- Honouring what comes up for you
- It's the journey, not the destination
- Practical advice
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/paisleyheart_
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/paisleyhearttt/
Website - https://www.hellopaisleyheart.com/
Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser
The intention with this podcast is to platform people who perhaps haven't been part of the discourse around masculinity and sexuality in the mainstream, spiritual, Tantra and sacred sexuality communities. From sex workers, male strippers, and relationship coaches to psychosexual therapists, transgender educators and indigenous men, "Men, Sex & Pleasure" is a podcast discussing all things masculinity, sexuality, male bodies and men's experience of pleasure.