On this episode of The Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Chloe Adriana, AKA The Pussy Queen. Chloe is a Radical Radiance Coach and Captivating Facilitator. For the past three years she has been working across the globe to empower, liberate and awaken vulva-bodied people into their full radiance. Chloe was born sexually liberated, from as early as she can remember she was making barbie dolls have sex and experimenting with spa jets. Yet like so many she grew up in a society where conversations about sexual based topics were off limits. She had nothing but outdated school videos, sealed sections of magazines and rumours among friends to guide her into the mysterious world of sex, love and relationships. Spending her teenage years and half her twenties sexually fumbling, it was a life changing trip around the world that finally landed her in a Swedish; Self Development, Spiritual and Tantric community. Here among a community of consciously and educated sexual beings her interest in tantra, trauma healing and facilitation would lead her to study to be a Sex, Love and Relationship Coach with the Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality. Chloe’s 10 years as a Professional Fairy and 5 years as a Primary teacher make her magnetic, colourful and vivacious nature all the more inviting, safe and entertaining. Chloe is delighted to be running some of the most unique and needed workshops in Melbourne on the subjects of sexuality, empowerment, relationships and intimacy. She offers limited spaces for high-end 1:1 Radical Radiance Coaching only for those ready to do the deep work. She runs monthly Radiant Rising Circles and other Radical Workshops found on her website or eventbrite. We chat about radiance, dark masculine energy, sexual scripts, and lingam love.
- Chloe shares about her transformative journey
- How Chloe defines radiance
- How Cam defines radiance
- The power of travel and exploration
- Masculinity and dark masculine energy
- Relationship with penises
- How penises are portrayed in media
- Rewriting sexual scripts
- Loving your genitals
Chloe’s Instagram: @thechloeadriana
This is another solo episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast. In this week’s episode, I chat about male sex toys, or sex toys for people with a penis, in an attempt to normalize the use of said toys. Women's use of vibrators and other sex toys is often celebrated as a sign of sexual liberation. But unfortunately the same cannot be said for men. This is because there is a certain stigma surrounding the use of these particular toys. With the help of @lovehoneyau, I want to try to dispel that stigma, normalize the use of male sex toys, and celebrate men’s exploration of self-pleasure. In this episode, I go through part of my own personal collection of toys and talk about the different ways in which they can be used as well as what I think about them. If you’re interested in sex toys for people with a penis and you want to learn more about what is out there, this is definitely the episode for you. If you like what you hear and want to invest in your self-pleasure, you can head over to @lovehoneyau and use the code CAM20LOVE for a discount on your purchase.
- The stigmatization of male sex toys
- Celebrating men’s self-pleasuring
- Fifty Shades of Grey Relentless Vibrations Couples Vibrator
- We-Vibe X Lovehoney Clitoral and G-Spot Vibrator
- Blowmotion Warming Vibrating Male Masturbator
- Blowmotion Warming Pulsating Vibrating Male Masturbator
- Blowmotion Real Feel Vibrating Male Masturbator
- Blowmotion Blow Job Real Feel Vibrating Suction Male Masturbator
- Desire Luxury Male Vibator
- Desire Luxury Vibrating Prostate Massager
- Kinky Confessions Card Game
Lovehoney’s website: https://www.lovehoney.com.au/
Lovehoney’s Instagram: @lovehoneyau
On this episode of The Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Danny Lakey. Originally from Western Australia and growing up in Perth, Danny started out doing casual music shifts at hit90.9 Sea FM Gold Coast and has also worked at hit 92.9 Perth and the breakfast shift at Star 106.3 in Townsville. He currently hosts The Danny Lakey Show, a national night time show on Triple M, which you can listen to from 7pm to 10pm weeknights across the country. Danny is a self-confessed pub quiz master and amateur comedian. The two of us talk about his experience with alcohol and sobriety, particularly as an Australian man in our drinking culture. We also talk about exploring altered states of consciousness with psychedelics and plant medicine. Lastly, we talk about sex and masculinity and how these two things have impacted and continue to impact Danny’s life.
- Danny shares about his career on radio
- Showing up authentically
- Australian men and our drinking culture
- Sobriety and masculinity
- Altered states of consciousness
- Experiencing the divine feminine
- Stigma about psychedelics and sex
- Combining sex with psychedelics
- Danny shares some advice
Danny’s Instagram: @dannylakeyshow
Danny’s website: https://www.triplem.com.au/shows/the-danny-lakey-show
On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with my friend Manuele Paradiso. Manu is an inner explorer committed to the development of his most authentic self. His purpose is to share his journey unfiltered with the people and inspire them to follow their heart. He offers his experience to people as a facilitator, blogger, speaker and mentor. Manu grew-up in a small reality surrounded by macho-patriarchal culture but educated by very inclusive and progressive parents. After his academic formation he started to travel and that’s when the big shifts started to happen. Deep diving in different spiritual lineages and exploring with entheogenic plants.
Since then, he started a process of integration between intellect, spiritual call and sexuality. His attention goes in particular to men who want more awareness about their cultural conditioning and support in the development of a deeper and more conscious relationship with their partner and themselves. Since one year back he has been active with an online course for men (The Attractive Hero) with the intention of self development supported by a healing space of brotherhood. He also offers webinars on conscious relating and recently he started a series of meetings in person as a facilitator for groups’ introspective journeys.
- Manu shares about his story and his passion
- Discussing approaches to coaching men
- Personal sexual turning points
- The line between sexualization and objectification
- Having intention with sexual energy
- Being honest about your intentions
- Listening to your “Yes”
- Advice for men interested in this work
Manu’s Instagram: @manuele_paradiso
Manu’s website: manueleparadiso.com
On The Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Lauren French. Lauren is a recently graduated sexologist holding a membership with the Society of Australian Sexologists. Lauren has a real passion for sexuality education as well as helping individuals or couples through a multitude of sexual difficulties and experiences. Lauren creates a warm and inviting space for clients to feel comfortable to share and be heard. All sessions are held within a judgement free space, as Lauren welcomes all diverse sexualities and varying individual experiences. She also works with with Body Safety Australia, a social enterprise protecting children from sexual abuse with whole community solutions. Lauren works with all genders, orientations and identities and offers a judgment-free, safe space for all beings. She is queer-friendly (LBGTIQ) and works with clients in any aspect of sex and sexuality. She believes that sex should be able to be discussed openly and that everyone deserves to have a pleasurable and enjoyable sex life. She specialises in sex education, and empowering individuals to be less goal- orientated and more pleasure orientated. Lauren and I talk about the nuances of her work as a sex educator as well as her life as a proud First Nations woman. We also discuss where and how these two experiences intersect.
- What is an Acknowledgement of Country?
- Comprehensive Sexuality Education
- The importance of Media and Porn Literacy
- Creating safe spaces for kids to learn
- Language and terminology
- Lauren shares about her family and lineage
- Intergenerational trauma and loss of culture
- Sex- and pleasure-positivity
- Fear, masculinity and masculinities
- Compassionate words for any First Nations people listening
Lauren’s Instagram: @Lauren.French.Sexologist
Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser
The intention with this podcast is to platform people who perhaps haven't been part of the discourse around masculinity and sexuality in the mainstream, spiritual, Tantra and sacred sexuality communities. From sex workers, male strippers, and relationship coaches to psychosexual therapists, transgender educators and indigenous men, "Men, Sex & Pleasure" is a podcast discussing all things masculinity, sexuality, male bodies and men's experience of pleasure.