On today’s episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with James Mattingley. James is a coach and facilitator with over a decade of leading groups, and guiding transformational experiences. He is based in Ubud Bali and works in three areas; helping couples reignite the passion they had in the beginning... but better. Guiding small groups of seekers to connect to their genius and superpowers. And leading men’s groups focused on stepping into courage and loving on each other through embodiment and boxing. The two of us talk about passion, love, sacredness, soul mates, sex, emotion, and fighting.
- James introduces himself
- Can we all follow our passions?
- Cultivating intuition and trust
- Determining your core value
- Individual sacredness
- Soul mates and love
- Spontaneous vs planned sex
- Masculinity and numbing emotion
- Physical exhaustion and emotional expression
James’ Instagram: @james.mattingley
James’ website: https://www.jamesmattingley.com/
James’ Facebook: /mattingleyjames
On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Samantha Zipporah, a fertility, sex, & cycle educator, author, & activist with over 20 years of experience. She is devoted to breaking the spells of oppression in reproductive & sexual health through collective healing, liberation, & education. A former birth doula, she provides radical love for navigating the womb continuum & reclaiming ancestral wisdom. Sam’s unique praxis weaves a balance of scientific data & spiritual presence to offer knowledge & embodied wisdom for claiming inner authority, pleasure, & power in fertility, sex, & cycles. Sam provides vital education for everyone from professionals to preteens and inspires individuals to claim their power through body literacy & sovereignty. The two of us talk about contraception and the symptothermal method of fertility awareness.
- Samantha shares about her work
- Reclaiming language
- The sacred “Yes”
- Stigma around contraception
- Who is responsible for contraception?
- The symptothermal method
- Semen retention and the withdrawal method
- Men learning about fertility awareness
- Herbal abortion
Samantha’s website: www.samanthazipporah.com
Samantha’s Facebook: facebook.com/samanthazipporah
Samantha’s Instagram: @samanthazipporah
On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Lovehoney Director and Head of Operations in Australia, Rob Godwin. Rob is responsible for day-to-day commercial operations and performance, as well as growing the Lovehoney brand in Australia. Rob’s role at Lovehoney is diverse and encompasses creating, developing and implementing a multi-level business plan and strategy to ensure the successful operations of Lovehoney Australia, while accelerating its year-on-year growth. Rob manages a 30-strong team with four departmental heads, covering; customer service; warehousing and distribution; online trading; PR and marketing; finance; and buying. Rob established Lovehoney Australia in Queensland in September 2013 from his spare room with one staff member. Previously having run his own business, the Love Group, Rob successfully tendered the Fifty Shades of Grey license in association with the UK company, Lovehoney Ltd. The Fifty Shades of Grey range is now one of the companies most successful product lines. Rob’s career has been highly focused on implementing and overseeing strategies to drive revenue growth and raising the profile of the adult industry. After studying a Bachelor of Business Administration at Lancaster University, Rob moved into marketing and strategy and has worked his way up to CEO of Sexpo and Club X stores. Since starting Lovehoney Australia, he has been featured in international publications and was on the industry board for six years. He encourages his team to take pride in their work, recognising and celebrating their successes, as well as striving to drive the business forward. Outside of work Rob is a keen amateur boxer and marathon runner. The father of two likes yoga, and is a local junior football coach. The two of us talk about the history and future of Lovehoney and what it is like to be a leader for the world’s largest online adult toy retailer.
Lovehoney’s Instagram: @lovehoneyau
Lovehoney’s website: www.lovehoney.com.au
Cam’s Patreon: www.patreon.com/thecamfraser
On today’s episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Kelly Gordon. Kelly is a 32 year old entrepreneur and consultant based in the West Midlands, UK. She has Spinal Muscular Atrophy Type 3 which is a genetic disability meaning for her, that she uses an electric wheelchair to get around. Kelly’s condition is progressive and has meant that she has faced losing her ability throughout her life especially when her body faced big changes and challenges such as pregnancy. Kelly has two young sons, which is quite trying for any parent but absolutely loves parenting with her disability with help from her supportive partner Josh and her awesome team of PA’s. From a young age Kelly was outspoken and never let anyone dictate what her disability meant or allowed her to do, this has seen her go through mainstream schools, get into a lot of trouble at college and ultimately push herself through many exciting and predominantly male dominated industries. Kelly now works as a consultant which allows her to dedicate her time to projects that truly excite her and allows her also to manage her time to ensure she has sufficient time with her young sons. Kelly's current projects span from recruitment to working for forward thinking sex toy brand Hot Octopuss. Kelly also works as a presenter and is the current host of Hot Octopuss’s brand podcast Pleasure Rebels, as well as this Kelly has also worked on projects for the BBC, Channel 4 and Virgin Media. Kelly also regularly appears in mainstream media throughout the UK discussing issues that disabled people face and advocating for other disabled people. Kelly has also co-founded the business "With Not For” with Emma Gardner. Kelly and Emma are working together on this project to not only get disabled people into work but to push disabled people into high paid and high power roles, ultimately getting them to boardroom level by embracing talent, confidence and reeducating big employers about the benefits of adding people with disabilities to their teams. The two of us talk about Kelly’s experience as a disabled person as well as the intersection of disability and sexuality.
- Kelly shares some of her story
- The novelty of sex toys
- How Kelly’s disability has impacted her sexuality
- The extra layers of consent
- The disability bubble
- Stigmatization of wheelchair users
- Sex toys for people with disabilities
- Sex toys for flaccid penises
- Advice for people with a disability
Kelly’s Instagram: @mskelgee
Pleasure Rebels podcast: @pleasurerebels
Cam’s Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thecamfraser
On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Court Vox. Court provides personal guidance and expertise in the unique and often ignored areas of sex. He is a trained Sex and Intimacy Consultant, Surrogate Partner Intern and Sacred Intimate. His approach is personal and necessary. Founder of his practice The Body Vox, he brings professional opportunities for his clients to learn about and embrace their bodies and those of others. Sex, the thing the world is now acknowledging as so important for our general wellness, mental health and indeed our lives is on the agenda. While much progress has been made it is still too often a taboo subject. Court serves as the counselor of our times breaking down the walls of shame and anxiety around intimacy and sex. Traditional forms of therapy are done through talk, the work of a somatic sex educator is to further this form of work via touch and body-based exercises in comfortable, judgment-free, and safe environments. Body acceptance, exploration of sensation and desires (and learning how to ask for what you want), boundary-setting and intimacy work are some of the many reasons clients seek this form of therapy. Court is a sex educator experienced working with clients of all sexualities and genders. He continues to collaborate with fellow sex educator Pamela Madsen for workshops around the country. The two of us talk about his work as a surrogate partner as well as what it means to be multi-orgasmic.
- Court shares some of his story
- Transitioning from corporate to sexuality work
- The different modalities Court draws on
- Self-pleasure rituals
- What is surrogate partner therapy?
- Surrogate partner therapy vs sex work
- Client-centered approach
- Sexual orientation and surrogate partner therapy
- The many types of male orgasm
- 31+ erogenous zones
Court’s Instagram: @courtvox
Court’s Website: thebodyvox.com
Cam’s Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thecamfraser
Today on #mensexpleasure, I chat with Ian Collins. Ian has spent his career working with organisations on some of the riskiest frontiers to build more resilient and reliable systems that keep planes in skies, prevent oil rigs from blowing up, nuclear plants from melting down, getting people home safely to their families and keeping the environment free from harm. What he has discovered is that similar principles that create the conditions for safety in workplaces can be just as applicable to creating safety in relationships. He now helps men learn the tools and resources to create trust and safety, taking their relationships from struggling and stagnant to being passionate, healthy, balanced and loving. The two of us talk about Ian’s work and how he translates occupational safety principles into relationship advice. We also discuss what creating safety and holding space looks like in a relational as well as a sexual context.
- Ian shares about why he does this work
- Workplace accidents and safety
- Translating principles into relationships
- What does it mean to create safety?
- Masculinity and space holding
- Femininity and surrendering
- Safety in an erotic context
- Relationships dynamics and longevity
- Advice for men
Ian’s Instagram: @ianpcollins
Ian’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ipcollins
On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Andrew Gurza (they/he). Andrew is a Disability Awareness Consultant and Cripple Content Creator. In their work, he seeks to explore how the lived experience of disability feels, as it interplays with intersectional communities. By using hashtags like #diSAYbled, #DisabilityAfterDark, #BearinAChair and #KissAQueerCripple Andrew shares their lived experiences of disability, queerness, sexuality and body image in a raw, vulnerable and unapologetic fashion. He has presented all across North America on sex and disability as a Queer Crippled man. Their written work has been highlighted in Out Magazine, The Advocate and Huffington Post. He hosts the Disability After Dark podcast, which shines a bright light on sex and disability, while also aiming to explore parts of the disabled experience that we don’t often hear about. The two of us talk about Andrew’s experience and expression of sexuality and masculinity as well as the nuances of what it is like to be a queer man with a disability.
- Andrew introduces himself
- Ableism and creating spaces for learning
- The sexual stigma of disability
- Disability representation in porn
- Considerations for sex with a disabled person
- The depth of “yes”
- Andrew’s relationship with care
- Using social media to raise awareness
- Playing with identity, femininity and masculinity
- Assumptions about people with a disability
Andrew’s website: http://www.andrewgurza.com/
Andrew’s Twitter/Instagram: @andrewgurza_
On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Tim Lagman. Tim is a certified sex educator with the American College of Sexologists International and pleasure advocate based in Toronto, Canada. He began his sexual journey through escorting where he worked with a number of clients from different backgrounds and all walks of life ranging from couples, individuals, poly relationships, and everything in between. He then went to study Business Management specializing in the music industry and graduated with honours. In his free time, Tim likes to volunteer and give back to the community through outreach in Toronto’s LGBT scene providing sex education and harm reduction resources to the public. It is his mission in life to make sex fun and funny as he loves to make people laugh and believes in the curative powers of laughter. The two of us talk about rimming, multiple orgasms, and edging we well as Tim’s lived experience as a gay Asian man who works as a sexuality professional.
- Tim shares about his escorting journey
- From escort to sex educator
- Masturbation vs Self-Pleasure
- Multi-orgasmic experiences
- Anal play, rimming and personal hygiene
- Edging techniques and strategies
- Stereotypes about Asian men
- The intersection of being Asian and gay
On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Luna Agneya (She/They). Luna is a Sensuality and Relating expert - teaching, coaching and creating events & immersions in the field of Sensuality and conscious connection for many years. A certified VITA Integrated Sex, Love and Relationship coach, Tantric Yogini, event manager and designer, Luna has fused together her many skills and passions into projects dedicated to the liberation of people through the erotic, through relationships and through the shadow work of kink and taboos. Luna runs retreats and events around the world and is the headmistress of the Sensual Arts School, an online school for Tantra and Sacred sexuality that is queer friendly and kink positive. The two of us talk about one of Luna’s passions; erotic shadow work. We discuss what it is, why it is important, and how you can start exploring it.
Luna shares some of her story Integrating spirituality and sexuality Strategies for beginning shadow work Cultural vs personal shadows Integrating your shadow Generational trauma Shadow aspects of pornography Advice for people interested in shadow work
Cam’s Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thecamfraser
Luna’s Instagram: @sensual.artistry
Luna’s Instagram: @sensualartsschool
Luna’s website: www.sensualartistry.com
Luna’s website: www.sensualarts.school
Luna’s upcoming Shadow Work course: https://www.sensualarts.school/shadow-self-worship
On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Lana Jade. Lana is an intimacy coach as well as an adult industry coach/mentor. She has been in the industry for 7 years, and during that time she has had an incredibly successful career. Lana began in the industry as many do, desperate and in need of money to turn her dreams into a reality, and to feed her family. She had always been interested in and fascinated by the adult industry and in a sense she is grateful that desperation led to her exploring it. Lana comes from a sales and marketing background and is determined, strong willed and resourceful, so it wasn't long after working for agencies and others that she started working independently. By navigating the industry’s rapid changes, feeling overwhelmed at times, reworking strategies and systems continuously, and shifting her priorities, Lana developed a very structured and systematic way that works for her, earning her more than she has ever earned, while also having the balance she craved. She has made the industry work for her. And that's exactly what she wants to do with others. The two of us talk about her experience in the adult industry as well as the stigmatization she has felt from the spirituality community and how she works with clients.
- Lana shares about her experience in the adult industry
- Integrating other modalities
- Emotional burnout and compassion fatigue
- Mentoring others in the industry
- Stigmatization from the Sacred Sexuality community
- “Real” women vs adult performers
- Only Fans, camming, and authenticity
- Male clients, pleasure, and communication
- Advice for potential clients
Lana’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/lanajadexxx
Lana’s podcast: @are.you.available.podcast
Lana’s Instagram: @whatss.my.name.again
Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser
The intention with this podcast is to platform people who perhaps haven't been part of the discourse around masculinity and sexuality in the mainstream, spiritual, Tantra and sacred sexuality communities. From sex workers, male strippers, and relationship coaches to psychosexual therapists, transgender educators and indigenous men, "Men, Sex & Pleasure" is a podcast discussing all things masculinity, sexuality, male bodies and men's experience of pleasure.