On episode 20 of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Josh Fairleigh. Josh grew up on the east coast of Australia, surfing, skating, boxing, fishing, loving all the outdoor active lifestyle this environment allows. School was very low on the list; this resulted in a early school drop out and the introduction of his first job in the surfboard industry. Surfing being Josh’s life passion; he shaped custom surfboards for about 15 years until his Saturn return when he began to see the environmental impact of the industry and pictured his own health in another 15 years. This was the time when Josh became very interested in health and natural medicines. After an awakening during a yoga course in Thailand with some influential teachers Josh began studying Ayurveda, Yoga, Reiki, Pranic Healing and Shamanic Crystal work and finally found the passion for academic education that he could not find in the earlier school years. Josh now teaches Breath workshops and does energy and Shamanic Healing’s. Josh became interested in Feng Shui as he spent many years traveling the world and Australia, through this travelling from town to town, country to country he was aware of his own moods, perception and reality changing; which made him curious as to how much our environment has an effect on our reality, from the weather, the land forms, water quality, different beliefs, colours, shapes and the spiritual energy. Josh has studied Feng Shui and Environmental studies with the Australian College of Environmental Studies. He now emphasises Breathwork as a tool to facilitate spiritual, mental, physical and emotional health. This approach and training touches all of these aspects of life; from physical fitness, to harmonising our internal and external energy bodies.
We spoke about Josh's Lyme Disease and how it has affected his relationship with himself, his wife and his daughter, particularly with regards to how he perceives his masculinity. We also spoke about conscious conception and what men can do to contribute to the conceiving process.
- Josh story
- Contracting Lyme Disease
- Trusting teachers and cultivating discernment
- Physical health and relationships
- Shifting perceptions about masculinity
- Can you look yourself in the eye?
- Unpacking conscious conception
- A man's role in the conceiving process
- Bringing consciousness into the conceiving process
Cam's Instagram: @thecamfraser
Cam's website: www.cam-fraser.com
On episode 19 of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, today's episode I chat with a dear brother of mine, Tim Morrison. He is a leading Men's work facilitator and transformational coach, he is also a multi instrumentalist and gifted shamanic, somatic bodyworker who uses sacred sound and breath to create deep transformational spaces Tim guides people on the path of personal transformation. He initiates a deep inner journey to walk people home to themselves, to connect back to the earth, back to who they truly are so they can live and lead from their heart. His passion is to walk through the shadows of deep change. Tim is building a transformational movement where everyone is guided to consciously lead within their own life, so they can live a life of purpose and fulfilment in their own genius. Tim was initiated onto the shamanic path from spirit and plant medicines, along with having trained in breath work, jungle medicine with the Katukina tribe of Brazil and worked with the Shipibo and Mestiso lineage in Peru. His focus now is on expanding consciousness and deepening human connection. We talk about the intersection of men's work and sexuality as well as the transmission of sexuality teachings in the Tantra community.
- Tim's journey from fighter to warrior
- Being that creepy, seedy, sexual guy
- Parental wounding and sex
- Men teaching men about sex
- Tantric Gurus and sexual abuse
- Ethical standards in sacred sexuality work
- Neediness, weakness and sex
- Holding space for the erotic feminine
- The difference between conflict and challenge
Tim's Instagram: @timmorrison__
Cam's Instagram: @thecamfraser
On episode 18 of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with a beautiful man who I met in New Zealand a few years ago. We shared a meal together and I resonates with so much of his story. His name is Franko Heke and he is on a mission to raise consciousness through his music and workshops. Drawing on ancient mantra in combination with his own cultural roots, Franko’s devotional sessions are bound to coax your own divine voice into the open with his distinct fresh sounds for today. With years of touring rock music under his belt, Franko’s compass has drawn him north toward a movement, which brings people together, celebrating our unique gifts, our connection to one another and to mother earth. Sought after for yoga, meditation and transformational festival events, Franko’s boundless energy for the betterment of all beings. Having opened for Xavier Rudd and Nahko & Medicine for the people as well as sharing the microphone with Donavon Frankenreiter, Franko is poised to have his message heard far and wide. We spoke about personal transformation and choosing a different path by return to the self and not being scared to make mistakes.
- Franko's path and where it led him
- Deciding things need to change
- The process of transformation
- Catalysts and barriers
- Finding your tribe
- Māori cultural influences
- Music and expression
- Finding your voice
- Leaning into mistakes
Franko's Website: www.frankoheke.com/
NZ Spirit Festival: https://www.nzspiritfestival.com/
Franko's Instagram: @frankoheke
On episode 17 of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I'm chatting with Joseph Kramer, Ph.D. For forty years, Joseph has traveled the world teaching erotic bodywork. In 1984, he founded the Body Electric School in Oakland, California, where he trained thousands of professional massage therapists, erotic bodyworkers and somatic educators. In 2003, Joseph founded the new legal profession of Sexological Bodywork™. Joseph Kramer teaches in Sexological Bodywork trainings in California, Europe, Canada, Brazil and Australia and through his educational websites: OrgasmicYoga.com, EroticMassage.com, EroticIntegration.com and YogaofSex.com. Joseph and I discuss his practice of Porn Yoga, now called Erotic Integration. I've spoken on many other podcasts about my opinion that porn can be used intentionally as a tool to aid our arousal. This point of view comes directly from Joseph and the work that he does. We speak about how to watch porn healthily.
- Joseph shares a snippet of his story
- How porn is being used
- The "porn high"
- Standing up is a leverage practice
- Hands free masturbating
- "Balloon" masturbation vs erotic flow state
- Connecting with your body
- Integrating your heightened arousal
- Intentional ejaculation
- Practical advice for healthy porn watching
Cam's Website: www.cam-fraser.com
Cam's Instagram: www.cam-fraser.com
On season 2, episode 16 of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Dr. Juliana, the “girl next door” (with a PhD). Dr. Juliana is always up for a down and dirty conversation about sexuality and intimacy. As a credentialed therapist, academic, and a bonafide (s)expert, Dr. Juliana has spent decades counseling and supporting thousands of individuals on their paths to discover and own their sexual agency. Having traversed her own journey through love, loss, motherhood, and the world of academics, Dr. Julianahas come to understand that ownership over one’s own sexuality is the at the foundation of every fulfilled and confident person. She has developed a clear, action-driven method to help people of all backgrounds discover their own path to authenticity through holistic sexuality. Dr. Juliana is a certified by Betty Dodson as a BodySex Workshop facilitator and offers tons of tips, insight and support through coaching, therapy, online courses and in person retreats for becoming your own (s)expert over at dr-juliana.com. We chat about working with men, the differences between being a man and woman in this space, and how we can get men to open up to talk about sex.
- Dr. Juliana shares some of her history working with men
- Getting comfortable talking about sex
- Men working with men vs men working with women
- Private vs public work
- Specialising and collaborating
- Celebrating sexual wins
- Educating and problem solving
- Healthy sexuality impacting our lives
- How can women make men feel safe to be vulnerable
Dr. Juliana's Instagram: @drjulianahauser
Dr. Juliana's Facebook: Dr. Juliana
On episode 15 of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He is author of the blog Sex and Psychology and the popular book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works, including a textbook titled The Psychology of Human Sexuality that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller is a much sought-after voice in the media on sexuality research and education. He has been interviewed by The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, and CNN, and he has appeared on dozens of international radio, podcast, and television programs. We discuss his research about fantasies and particularly about what men fantasize about, as well as how to healthy explore your desires.
- Dr. Lehmiller introduces his research
- The most common fantasies
- Differences between men's and women's fantasies
- Men's fantasies and pressure to be a certain way
- Shame about our fantasies
- The origin of sexual fantasies
- Underlying emotional needs
- Dr. Lehmiller's dial analogy
- Advice for exploring sexual fantasies
Dr. Lehmiller's website: www.lehmiller.com
On episode 14 of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Taylor Johnson about sexual energy sublimation. Taylor is a sex educator and intimacy coach who helps men master their sex lives in an integrated way. Our philosophies about masculinity and sexuality seem to align and so Taylor and I had a great conversation about the practical elements of sexual energy transmutation and sublimation.
If you've ever been interested in learning how to work with sexual energy and use it to create and manifest other things, this is the episode for you.
Key points:- Taylor's personal reflections
- Ejaculation, ejaculation, ejaculation
- NoFap vs Sublimation
- The difference between transmutation and sublimation
- No woo-woo advice for moving sexual energy
- Change the way you masturbate
- The role of porn in sublimation practices
- Sharing sexual energy with a partner
Taylor's Instagram @taylorclarkjohnson
Taylor's website - https://www.taylorjohnson.life
On episode 13 of the Men Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with entrepreneur, artist, and Shamanic practitioner, Paisley Heart. Paisley embodies the hybrid archetypes of the Wild Businessman and Lifestyle Artist. Founder of the shamanic rite of passage event The Funeral and panel style podcast Curious Conversations, and previously such businesses as the holistic digital marketing agency DigiLove and Independent record label Fight Music - his gifts are truly unique and diverse.
Paisley is known to prowl the mysterious shadow realms of business. With the flaming torch of innovation, he sets the normal and mundane ablaze with alternative business approaches. By combining his obsession with spirituality, artistic expression, nature, and ritual, Paisley has made a strong impact on the music, social media marketing, and personal development industries. Paisley’s unorthodox style has often been challenging for his clients and for professionals in the industry. Pushing against these paradigms has become a strong and recognizable brand he is proud of. Paisley has proven that he has a sharp eye in discerning who he works with and where he invests his creative magic. The accolades, achievements, and rapid growth shared between his clients, artists and business are a testament to his uniqueness and grit.
- Paisley shares a part of his story
- Bisexuality and sexual fluidity
- Feeling comfortable exploring sexuality
- Creating a container for transformation
- The recipe for ritual
- Honouring what comes up for you
- It's the journey, not the destination
- Practical advice
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/paisleyheart_
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/paisleyhearttt/
Website - https://www.hellopaisleyheart.com/
On episode 12 of the Men Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with a very good friend of mine, Jarred Dickie. Jarred is a friendly face you might have seen around Fremantle, in Western Australia, for years. In 2013, Jarred started his Yoga journey as a student of Ava Irani (Spanda school founder) and progressed through the teachings of Hridaya Hatha Yoga. This gentle style of meditative Yoga is rooted in the “Self enquiry” method of Ramana Maharshi. Jarred also co-founded Kommunity Brew Kombucha in 2015, learning the incredible journey of running a small, conscious business.
During this podcast, we chat about the dualistic nature of masculinity and femininity as well as the idea that all spiritual practices are true, relative to our own perception and understanding. We also reflect on the current global conditions.
- Jarred shares some of his story
- Men's work and men's groups
- Spiritual technologies
- Practicing what you preach
- Fluctuations with ejaculation retention
- Jarred's definition of masculinity
- Blind Men and an Elephant
- The light and the dark
Jarred's Instagram: @jarreds_ectojourney
Kommunity Brew website: https://kommunitybrew.com/
Cam's Instagram: @thecamfraser
On episode 11 of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast. This time I chat with Devin Fredericksen about reframing our relationship with the earth, from Mother to Lover.
Devin helps people reconnect to themselves, each other, and Mother Earth in a heart-centred path. He supports the Regeneration of the Masculine, with the intention to reunite the global brotherhood. Devin is an ecstatic chef and regenerative farmer and specialises in sacred sexuality, conscious intimacy, permaculture.
Devin has weaved these elements together which allows Devin to facilitate the process of living in harmonious relationship with ourselves. Devin embraces life with gratitude for every day because of the gift of this opportunity to live life NOW.
- Devin's journey into his current work
- The difference between Mother Earth and Lover Earth
- Men's relationship with the feminine
- Harnessing sexual energy
- Celibacy and ejaculation
- Nature worship as sexual initiation
- Play and pleasure
Devin's Instagram: @devinfredericksen
Cam's Instagram: @thecamfraser
Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser
The intention with this podcast is to platform people who perhaps haven't been part of the discourse around masculinity and sexuality in the mainstream, spiritual, Tantra and sacred sexuality communities. From sex workers, male strippers, and relationship coaches to psychosexual therapists, transgender educators and indigenous men, "Men, Sex & Pleasure" is a podcast discussing all things masculinity, sexuality, male bodies and men's experience of pleasure.