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Today on #mensexpleasure, I chat with Ian Collins. Ian has spent his career working with organisations on some of the riskiest frontiers to build more resilient and reliable systems that keep planes in skies, prevent oil rigs from blowing up, nuclear plants from melting down, getting people home safely to their families and keeping the environment free from harm. What he has discovered is that similar principles that create the conditions for safety in workplaces can be just as applicable to creating safety in relationships. He now helps men learn the tools and resources to create trust and safety, taking their relationships from struggling and stagnant to being passionate, healthy, balanced and loving. The two of us talk about Ian’s work and how he translates occupational safety principles into relationship advice. We also discuss what creating safety and holding space looks like in a relational as well as a sexual context.
Key Points: - Ian shares about why he does this work - Workplace accidents and safety - Translating principles into relationships - What does it mean to create safety? - Masculinity and space holding - Femininity and surrendering - Safety in an erotic context - Relationships dynamics and longevity - Advice for men Relevant links: Ian’s Instagram: @ianpcollins Ian’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ipcollins
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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Andrew Gurza (they/he). Andrew is a Disability Awareness Consultant and Cripple Content Creator. In their work, he seeks to explore how the lived experience of disability feels, as it interplays with intersectional communities. By using hashtags like #diSAYbled, #DisabilityAfterDark, #BearinAChair and #KissAQueerCripple Andrew shares their lived experiences of disability, queerness, sexuality and body image in a raw, vulnerable and unapologetic fashion. He has presented all across North America on sex and disability as a Queer Crippled man. Their written work has been highlighted in Out Magazine, The Advocate and Huffington Post. He hosts the Disability After Dark podcast, which shines a bright light on sex and disability, while also aiming to explore parts of the disabled experience that we don’t often hear about. The two of us talk about Andrew’s experience and expression of sexuality and masculinity as well as the nuances of what it is like to be a queer man with a disability.
Key points: - Andrew introduces himself - Ableism and creating spaces for learning - The sexual stigma of disability - Disability representation in porn - Considerations for sex with a disabled person - The depth of “yes” - Andrew’s relationship with care - Using social media to raise awareness - Playing with identity, femininity and masculinity - Assumptions about people with a disability Relevant links: Andrew’s website: http://www.andrewgurza.com/ Andrew’s Twitter/Instagram: @andrewgurza_ On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Tim Lagman. Tim is a certified sex educator with the American College of Sexologists International and pleasure advocate based in Toronto, Canada. He began his sexual journey through escorting where he worked with a number of clients from different backgrounds and all walks of life ranging from couples, individuals, poly relationships, and everything in between. He then went to study Business Management specializing in the music industry and graduated with honours. In his free time, Tim likes to volunteer and give back to the community through outreach in Toronto’s LGBT scene providing sex education and harm reduction resources to the public. It is his mission in life to make sex fun and funny as he loves to make people laugh and believes in the curative powers of laughter. The two of us talk about rimming, multiple orgasms, and edging we well as Tim’s lived experience as a gay Asian man who works as a sexuality professional.
Key points: - Tim shares about his escorting journey - From escort to sex educator - Masturbation vs Self-Pleasure - Multi-orgasmic experiences - Anal play, rimming and personal hygiene - Edging techniques and strategies - Stereotypes about Asian men - The intersection of being Asian and gay On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Luna Agneya (She/They). Luna is a Sensuality and Relating expert - teaching, coaching and creating events & immersions in the field of Sensuality and conscious connection for many years. A certified VITA Integrated Sex, Love and Relationship coach, Tantric Yogini, event manager and designer, Luna has fused together her many skills and passions into projects dedicated to the liberation of people through the erotic, through relationships and through the shadow work of kink and taboos. Luna runs retreats and events around the world and is the headmistress of the Sensual Arts School, an online school for Tantra and Sacred sexuality that is queer friendly and kink positive. The two of us talk about one of Luna’s passions; erotic shadow work. We discuss what it is, why it is important, and how you can start exploring it.
Luna shares some of her story Integrating spirituality and sexuality Strategies for beginning shadow work Cultural vs personal shadows Integrating your shadow Generational trauma Shadow aspects of pornography Advice for people interested in shadow work Relevant Links: Cam’s Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thecamfraser Luna’s Instagram: @sensual.artistry Luna’s Instagram: @sensualartsschool Luna’s website: www.sensualartistry.com Luna’s website: www.sensualarts.school Luna’s upcoming Shadow Work course: https://www.sensualarts.school/shadow-self-worship On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Lana Jade. Lana is an intimacy coach as well as an adult industry coach/mentor. She has been in the industry for 7 years, and during that time she has had an incredibly successful career. Lana began in the industry as many do, desperate and in need of money to turn her dreams into a reality, and to feed her family. She had always been interested in and fascinated by the adult industry and in a sense she is grateful that desperation led to her exploring it. Lana comes from a sales and marketing background and is determined, strong willed and resourceful, so it wasn't long after working for agencies and others that she started working independently. By navigating the industry’s rapid changes, feeling overwhelmed at times, reworking strategies and systems continuously, and shifting her priorities, Lana developed a very structured and systematic way that works for her, earning her more than she has ever earned, while also having the balance she craved. She has made the industry work for her. And that's exactly what she wants to do with others. The two of us talk about her experience in the adult industry as well as the stigmatization she has felt from the spirituality community and how she works with clients.
Key Points: - Lana shares about her experience in the adult industry - Integrating other modalities - Emotional burnout and compassion fatigue - Mentoring others in the industry - Stigmatization from the Sacred Sexuality community - “Real” women vs adult performers - Only Fans, camming, and authenticity - Male clients, pleasure, and communication - Advice for potential clients Relevant links: Lana’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/lanajadexxx Lana’s podcast: @are.you.available.podcast Lana’s Instagram: @whatss.my.name.again On this episode of #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with The Empress Jazmin Wu a professional, and lifestyle Dominatrix, best known for Her radical theories about BDSM, and teachings on empowerment. Jazmin’s journey into the world of FemDom began in 2012, and She has since been seen gracing the pages of magazines, hosting luxury fetish events, and uniting women in charge everywhere! She has a deep passion for rope bondage, female lead erotica, and sexual psychology. You can find her curating art-fetish photoshoots, teaching Women about the FemDom lifestyle, and hosting elite kink lifestyle parties all over the globe. She believes BDSM is a unique tool that can be harnessed to pursue better physical, emotional, and mental health. In Her practice as a Dominatrix, She challenges concepts of guilt and shame by fostering a safe environment fueled by radical acceptance. The two of us talk about the submissive mentality as well as what it takes to hold space for a man who is interested in submission.
Key Points: - Jazmin shares about her journey with BDSM - The spectrum of kink - Holding space for submissives - The submissive mentality - Letting go of performance anxiety - Reframing sexual validation - Sexual symbols and rituals - Boundaries, exploration, and safewords - Sub-space and trance states Relevant links: Jazmin’s website: jazminwu.com Jazmin’s Twitter: @thankyouempress Jazmin’s Instagram: @thank.you.empress Jazmin’s Dominatrix website: thankyouempress.com On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Brad Gage. Brad is a guy who grew up in the Midwest, joined a fraternity, drank a lot, watched a lot of movies, and learned a lot of the wrong ways to treat women. And it’s not like it was exactly his fault or anything, that’s what society was telling him he should want to do. But once he started really listening to the women in his life, he realized how totally disconnected and frankly messed up all of his ideas of being a man were. So, once he recognized the problems, he set out to talk to men about it in a way that’s not preachy or shameful (because guys don’t know this stuff until they talk about it), but instead he wanted to give a little perspective and some ideas on how to replace their behaviors. Basically, he thinks it’s better for women AND men if dudes tried to dominate a little less and collaborate a little more. The two of us talk about the way men are represented in mainstream media and how these representations often perpetuate harmful stereotypes about what it means to be a man. We also discuss the importance of media literacy as well as examples of positive portrayals of men in media.
Key Points: - Brad shares about his upbringing - How do media images of men affect our lives? - Toxic vs positive masculinity - Stereotypical portrayals of men - Representations that challenge stereotypes - Critically thinking about media - The importance of diverse representation Relevant Links: Brad’s Instagram: @beauradley Brad’s Twitter: @bradgage On this episode of #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with The Authentic Man, David Chambers. David empowers men to create the exciting and deeply connected dating lives, sex lives and relationships they long for by developing their true authentic selves. As a Dating & Intimacy coach, coaching men for over a decade, David guides men to create authentic attraction, build deep emotional connections, embody healthy masculinity, and experience connected sexual intimacy. By helping them build self-awareness, emotional intelligence and self-leadership. The two of us talk about finding your purpose and how to balance this with your passions as well as the most common self-imposed barriers that men face when dating. David also shares about his experience as a Black man in the UK doing this work.
Key Points: - David shares about his work and passions - Purpose vs passion - Co-creating attraction and intimacy - Overthinking and anxiety - Treating dating like a video game - Invitations vs expectations - British masculinity and being a Black man - Race and the white spirituality community Relevant Links: David’s Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/ David’s Instagram: @theauthenticman_ On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with The Authentic Man, David Chambers. David empowers men to create the exciting and deeply connected dating lives, sex lives and relationships they long for by developing their true authentic selves. As a Dating & Intimacy coach, coaching men for over a decade, David guides men to create authentic attraction, build deep emotional connections, embody healthy masculinity, and experience connected sexual intimacy. By helping them build self-awareness, emotional intelligence and self-leadership. The two of us talk about finding your purpose and how to balance this with your passions as well as the most common self-imposed barriers that men face when dating. David also shares about his experience as a Black man in the UK doing this work.
Key Points: - David shares about his work and passions - Purpose vs passion - Co-creating attraction and intimacy - Overthinking and anxiety - Treating dating like a video game - Invitations vs expectations - British masculinity and being a Black man - Race and the white spirituality community Relevant Links: David’s Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/ David’s Instagram: @theauthenticman_ On this special episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with David Dyke. David Dyke is a man on a mission. After experiencing the earth-shattering news of a prostate cancer diagnosis, David was then inspired to help other men in their own struggle by deciding to film the entire journey, as raw and honestly as possible. When David first learned he had prostate cancer, he soon realised there were not many people he could talk to about the realities of the disease and its treatment, especially the taboos like incontinence and erectile dysfunction. So we discussed these things and more together in Waugal Cave, also known as Rocky Bay Cave, in Cypress Hill, North Fremantle.
Key points: - David offers an Acknowledgement of Country - David’s relationship with pleasure and masculinity - Being diagnosed with prostate cancer - Life after surgery - Incontinence and erectile dysfunction - Masturbation and multiple orgasms - Old age and masturbation - How your sex life changes as you age - Healthy vs unhealthy masturbation Relevant links: David Dyke Prostate Journey: From Diagnosis to Rehabilitation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PutQPR1-ExA David’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/prostatecancerdiagnosis/ |
Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam FraserThe intention with this podcast is to platform people who perhaps haven't been part of the discourse around masculinity and sexuality in the mainstream, spiritual, Tantra and sacred sexuality communities. From sex workers, male strippers, and relationship coaches to psychosexual therapists, transgender educators and indigenous men, "Men, Sex & Pleasure" is a podcast discussing all things masculinity, sexuality, male bodies and men's experience of pleasure. Archives
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